Here’s Why You Can’t Leave An Unhealthy Relationship Right Now

Love Over Addiction

Michelle Anderson

Society & Culture, Wifeofanalcoholic, Codependency, Relationships, Recovery, Alanon

4.8 • 1.5K Ratings

🗓️ 5 April 2020

⏱️ 27 minutes

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Summary

When you love someone suffering from addiction, you may question why you stay. And let’s be honest, with everything going on right now, all the shelter-in-place and stay-at-home orders, we’ve got a lot on our minds.

It’s a lot to process and work through. My heart goes out to you, sister. I was once where you are today, and you’ve got a whole other layer to navigate being at home with these uncertain times.

Today is all about why you are staying in your relationship right now - or maybe why you stayed as long as you did. I share why I stayed as long as I did, and why that whatever you choose, it’s fine.

It’s your choice, and frankly, like me 10 years ago, you may just not be ready to leave yet.

You can find hope, sister. Regardless of where you are today, let’s drop the judgment and focus on our own healing.

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0:00.0	You're listening to the Love Over Addiction Podcast. Hey, it's Michelle, and this is a highly unusual podcast episode
0:25.0	because as you might hear in the background,
0:29.0	I am in my backyard.
0:31.0	The coronavirus is still going on and I have a gazillion kids as you
0:36.6	know who are inside the house in various rooms doing online school. So I wanted to record something but also didn't want to
0:47.3	interrupt their learning. So I'm outside. You can maybe hear the birds. The
0:52.1	sun is shining. It's a beautiful day here in Florida.
0:56.2	And of course I was thinking of you.
0:58.8	So this is, there's no script, there's no agenda here other than the fact that I want to talk to you today about why you are having problems leaving a unhealthy relationship.
1:17.0	So if you're in love with somebody suffering from addiction and you know deep, deep, deep down inside your gut and your soul that you need to leave, that this is unhealthy.
1:31.0	You might not have that feeling all the time, right? You might just get it in moments or
1:41.2	during times of trauma or during a huge fight or when it's really chaotic or let's say
1:49.4	your loved one doesn't answer your phone or doesn't respond to your call or said
1:56.3	they would come home for the evening and they don't it's moments like that where
2:00.5	you have a reality check and you say yeah this is not something I
2:06.4	should be in I need to leave I need to get out I deserve better there's someone
2:11.6	out there that can treat me better than this and even if there isn't, even if I'm alone for the rest of my life, it's still beats being rejected and lied to and manipulated over and over again.
2:28.2	It feels like you're going insane and it feels like you're going crazy because that's the
2:31.9	definition of crazy and insanity which is
2:34.6	doing the same things over and over again and expecting different results right so it kind of
2:41.0	feels like when we're in this relationship, we have moments where we want to leave, but, and here's what I wanted to talk about today, but you also have these wonderful, glorious intimate moments of love and relief and intimacy.
3:07.6	It's not all bad. At least it wasn't at the beginning, right? I mean, that's the whole reason why we fell in love with these wonderful people who are for the most part wonderful people in it their
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