Codependency Has Its Benefits

Love Over Addiction

Michelle Anderson

Society & Culture, Wifeofanalcoholic, Codependency, Relationships, Recovery, Alanon

4.8 • 1.5K Ratings

🗓️ 29 March 2020

⏱️ 11 minutes

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Summary

**Listen to this episode for a special update from me during this time**

A lot of times in the recovery world we, the loved ones, are labeled as codependent people. They basically use that label to explain why we might have gotten into this relationship in the first place.

Labels set aside, we all got into our relationships for different reasons. And of course, we’re each choosing to stay or leave for our own reasons.

Here’s what I think: being labeled as “codependent” can have its benefits. I believe there are ways to use these codependent tendencies for good.

Today you’ll hear about three benefits of codependency. What do you think? Do you have these benefits like I do?

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0:00.0	You're listening to the Love Over Addiction Podcast. Hey there. How you doing? Some of you extroverts right now in the world today are might be going a little crazy
0:29.5	because you can't leave your house. We've all been quarantined and told to stay inside. I have never
0:36.0	received so many text messages in my life. I don't know about you. But for those of us that are introverts, we're not minding this too much.
0:46.2	This whole stay in your house and hide thing, it kind of was working out for me.
0:50.5	I got to be honest. Although of course I feel incredibly sad for all of the
0:55.4	tragedies that are going on in this world, I also think that taking care of
1:01.2	ourselves during this time is of ultimate importance and also keeping a sense of humor.
1:08.0	I have a father, as you guys know, who is 80 and lives in New York City and every day I send him something funny and my
1:18.6	goal is to try and make him laugh because it would be really easy for me to spiral out of control with terrible thoughts about the risk that he has and the potential of him being exposed but I refuse to go down there and I refuse to submit my mental mind and space to going down the path of what if and instead I'm just
1:50.0	trying to focus on the time that I have with him and bringing him laughter.
1:55.6	So this is a loving reminder to all of you during this very scary and uncertain time.
2:05.0	Monitor your thoughts, your feelings, and yourself.
2:09.0	For me, that looks like not going on any of the news channels or staying off social media
2:19.5	I'm watching funny uplifting movies like Lala Land and Bad Moms and reading the books
2:29.3	that have been on my shelf that I've wanted to read for a while. It means cooking from scratch again, using all
2:37.6	the ingredients in my fridge and my freezer and my pantry that I've had stocked in there for a while.
2:44.8	It means putting my phone away.
2:49.4	Yesterday I even had to turn it off because too many people were texting me articles and news and
2:58.0	you know losing their minds and it just wasn't healthy for me So I literally turned my phone off for the rest of the afternoon and took a break and unplugged.
3:09.0	So whatever it is you
3:13.0	you're taking care of yourself, do that, set your boundaries.
3:17.0	If there's anyone in the world that is prepared for this, my friends, it is you.
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