Hey, the bird show. Normally I say, hey, life is shorts. Go ahead and shoot your shot.

If you have a best friend or a friend, all of a sudden you caught feelings, I say shoot your shot.

However, the stakes are really high because that relationship might be changed forever.

And this is what Abby's friend is going through yeah thank

god this is not about me because there's nothing worse than when your guy friend sits across from you

and gives you that look and then goes so there's something i've been wanting to talk to you about for a while

oh just my skin crawl and i think the general rule that we've had on the show is like if she was into you

she would have shown you in all these years that you have been friends.

For sure. But I think guys sometimes overestimate just how much a girl is into them.

They start like reading into things too much. And sometimes a lady is just being nice.

I feel like women are a little bit better at picking up on those more subtle signals.

And my friend now feels like she needs to put out all these signals that she's not interested

because not only is one of her guy friends somewhat cornering her into trying to make a move,

she feels like it's not necessarily about who she is, but about one thing about her that he is maybe,

I don't know if fetishizing is the right word

because this is not like a salacious or dirty thing. Like this is an adult content, but he's

picking apart one thing about her body that she's like, oh my God, I think he's like, I think

he's idolizing this for some reason. So this is all, this all has to do with a college group of friends. She was in this big girl guy group, friend group all through college, very, very close.

And then as she moved to a new city, only a part of the friend group made it to that part.

And so, you know, they of course hang out and do all the things that typical 20-somethings do on the weekend, go out to breweries, hang out.

And they're reasonably close for how, how,

how close a girl-guy friendship can be. And so she has these two guy friends that are,

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