Hi, this is Janet Lansbury. Welcome to Unruffled. Today I'm going to be responding to a couple of parents.

They both wrote to me about their children. Both happened to be in a school transition and

seem to be having feelings around that. But that's not really what this is about. This is about,

in one case, the anxiousness that a child feels about disturbing things that they've been exposed to

or that have happened to them. And this parent is wondering if this is normal, if it's okay for

their child to be feeling like this this and what they can do to help

him feel more safe and less worried.

The second one that I'm going to tie into this came to me, I believe it was an Instagram

message and this child is also in a transition, a kindergarten transition, but they're showing their feelings about it

a different way. This child is being very disruptive at bedtime, being aggressive, even violent.

And the parent gave me a rundown when I asked her about the things that she's doing right now.

So I want to comment on that and help

this parent see what I strongly believe could be missing. Although these children's anxieties

are quite specific, I hope these suggestions will apply to any situation or anxiety that your

child might be going through. Okay, so first.

Hi Janet, I'm reaching out because I'm concerned about my four-year-old son.

Recently, he's been showing a lot of anxiety around vomiting.

He frequently asks if he's going to puke or if I am.

This started the day before his first day of preschool. He has only

vomited a couple of times, but he remembers the moments well. He can tell you where he was

each time he did it. It seems to be on his mind often, and I want to make sure I'm supporting

him in the right way. I try to reassure him, but I'm not sure if I'm making

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