Most resilient people don't want to sit down in the valley they want to figure things

out so they try again they try again so these are children who don't whine and

complain mommy it's too hard I can't do it but instead So these are children who don't whine and complain,

Mommy, it's too hard, I can't do it.

But instead they go, shoot, this was hard.

I wonder what would make it easier.

So on their own, they still need a mom and dad

to be the support system, absolutely. But but on their own they begin to figure things out

So they develop a healthy independence which I think is so great healthier mental health

Well, that's Dr Kathy Cook and she joins us again today on Focus on the Family with Jim

Daly. Thank you for joining us. I'm John Fuller.

John, it sounds funny, I'm laughing already going, I'm so excited to hear today's program.

But last time we had a great chat with

Dr. Kathy Cook we did and I just I think I love the art of parenting I'm no

expert believe it or not I get to hear from a lot of experts but I just love the challenge of it and the thought that it takes to do a good job

I don't always do a great job let me confess that right away Jean Gene would say that's true.

But you know it's fun. It is an art.

Yeah, don't you feel like when they were younger it was easier and the stakes weren't so high and now they're adults and

the continual challenges? I don't know. An opportunity. weren't so high and now they're adults and that's a good question.

I don't know.

You know, you're constantly building into them

so I think it's been pretty even for me.

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