If they don't develop an ability to walk out of their trauma, they won't become who

God intended for them to be. And that grieves me because God has a plan for every

person he creates and it's only when we're resilient

where we come back from difficulty that we'll learn and grow and discover how life works,

will develop character, faith, perseverance and diligence, problem solving,

health, mental health, all of that.

That's Dr. Kathy Cook and she joins us today on Focus on the Family with Jim Daly.

I'm John Fuller.

Hey John, when it comes to instilling character and our kids, what a great goal.

How do we do that?

That's the question.

I think the most important aspect we can teach and model for them is bouncing back from struggles and difficulties.

This is known as resilience. A lot of psychologists talk about that, the importance of it. I think the

Bible, first and foremost, talks about it in 2 Corinthians, 4-89. It says through the

Apostle Paul where he writes, we are afflicted in every way but not crushed.

That's good.

Perplex but not driven to despair.

Persecuted, but not forsaken, struck down but not destroyed. Yeah, isn't that great?

That is a wonderful, beautiful picture.

Now the question is how do we teach that to our children and how do we live that out?

When challenges arise in our child's life, You want them to be able to face those

situations with courage and confidence and that's where resilience comes into play.

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