Helping Latter-day Youth Transition to Adulthood | An Interview with Mark McConville

Leading Saints Podcast

Leading Saints

Religion & Spirituality, Christianity

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🗓️ 26 February 2022

⏱️ 64 minutes

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Dr. Mark McConville is a Clinical Psychologist licensed by the State of Ohio with over 30 years of professional experience in adult, adolescent, emerging adult, and family psychology. Mark serves as a senior faculty member of the Gestalt Institute of Cleveland (GIC), a world renowned post-graduate training source for consulting and counseling professionals, and currently chairs GIC’s Advanced Training Program for Working With Children and Adolescents. Mark is the author of Failure to Launch: Why Your Twentysomething Hasn't Grown Up...and What to Do About It, a guide for parents of the 2.2 million young adults in America who are struggling to find their way in the world. Highlights 02:30 Introduction to Mark and his background 09:15 The demands on youth today as they enter into adulthood are much greater. Parents and grandparents shouldn’t make the mistake of thinking that it's as easy as going out and getting a job. 11:20 Kurt and Mark discuss young missionaries and if it’s a good idea to send them on missions at such a young age. 16:45 Kids growing up right now have the most supportive generation of parents in history. This is a huge plus but also has it’s negative aspects. 21:30 Kurt asks Mark if there are any ways that we can better prepare our missionaries. 25:00 The presence or absence of community is one the the critical variables in predicting success of starting a new phase in life. Such as, moving and starting a new job or leaving on a mission. 26:45 Mark talks about the developmental stages of being a parent and tips for parents at each stage. He gives his 3 primary ways that parents influence their children. Supervision Negotiating Consulting 34:40 How can we help youth reach out to other adults rather than their parents? 47:30 Mark’s tips for setting goals with youth. He suggests setting goals that are in the near future. 51:00 The importance of giving your kids responsibility 59:50 The concept of shame. Shame is one of the most toxic emotions. 1:03:00 The first thing a leader should do is de-shame the situation. Neutralize the shame and then go into how to fix the problem. 1:05:45 How parents can deal with older children in their twenties that are living at home and not progressing in life. 1:09:20 Mark’s final encouragement to youth leaders Links Failure to Launch: Why Your Twentysomething Hasn't Grown Up...and What to Do About It Read the TRANSCRIPT of this podcast

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0:00.0	Hey everyone Kurt Frankham here from Leading Saints.
0:04.4	All right, so we're publishing this in the middle of the Young Saints virtual conference
0:08.8	that's happening right now, but I'm glad you're also taking time for the podcast
0:12.4	or maybe you'll listen to this later.
0:14.0	But this episode you're back to hear is actually from a session, an upcoming session in the Young Saints virtual conference
0:21.2	and it's with Mark McConville and he's the author of
0:24.0	Failure to Launch why your 20-something hasn't grown up and what to do about it. A
0:28.6	phenomenal book I've had an opportunity to review it and I actually was made aware of Mark who's not a
0:34.4	Latter-day Saint but awesome researcher PhD psychologist who definitely has a lot to
0:40.5	teach us but I first heard him on the From Crisis to Connection
0:44.0	podcast which is hosted by Jeff Struer who's a phenomenal therapist in
0:49.0	Southern Utah, Latter-day Saint, and he's been on the podcast and on
0:53.2	the participate in other conferences the leading Saints have put on.
0:56.9	So check out his podcast as well, but this discussion was so helpful
1:01.6	eye-opening asking you, you know, this psychologist who studied and worked with as a therapist so many young adults, youth, about this transition into adulthood.
1:12.0	And I asked him some questions about you know what this
1:14.6	looks like when we have a tradition of you know being a missionary and leaving your home
1:19.3	at 18-19 years old and you know is that a good or bad thing is a better way to approach that and
1:24.4	uh anyways just some phenomenal concepts that especially youth leaders could consider
1:29.6	especially bishops of how do we begin to mentor these individuals so that we're preparing these
1:35.4	young people for adult life and what does that look like and what are some some
1:40.4	best practices there so phenomenal discussion listen to it here, go to the
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