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We're not here to change people. This is family. We're here to love people and sometimes the hard stuff gets in the way of that. So to have that perspective, I'm here today to have the attitude that I'm going to love these people whatever

that looks like and there's a great starting point intentionally think for each

person what could I say today that would encourage them?

That's Dr. Mike Bechtel, and he joins us today

on Focus on the Family.

Your host is Focus President and author Jim Daly,

and I'm John Fuller.

You know, John, this time of year

is so full of family gatherings, which is great, but it also can bring some stress.

I'm not going to say, do you have certain stress?

You have some stress associated with the ceiling.

You don't want to name name. But the point is, you know, these are the extended family coming over or you're going over to some family members house for the holidays and you got to remember the rules you got to remember everybody's preferences and

then when there's no rules that's a problem because then you're stepping on feet

you don't know and so today we want to equip you and believe it or not we get a

lot of questions from the

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