Healthy vs. Unhealthy Spouses
Focus on the Family Marriage Podcast
Focus on the Family
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🗓️ 12 May 2026
⏱️ 16 minutes
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Summary
When have you last examined your own flaws instead of fixating on your spouse's? Greg describes how distressed couples have a tendency to focus too much on their mate's issues instead of their own. Plus, Les and Leslie Parrott share how to tell if you're a healthy or an unhealthy spouse.
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| 0:00.0 | Is your marriage struggling? Communication breaking down, trust fading, conflict that never seems to resolve? |
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| 0:32.7 | When I was about, oh, I don't know, 22, 23, I looked in the mirror one day and realized, that's me. |
| 0:42.4 | And do I like me? |
| 0:43.7 | And who am I? |
| 0:44.8 | And what is this journey I'm on to figure out my adult life? |
| 0:49.8 | I'm still every now and then looking in the mirror, wondering, is that still me? |
| 0:53.8 | I'm John Fuller, joined by Greg and Aaron Smalley. |
| 0:56.0 | We're going to be talking a little bit about how to work on you in the mirror. |
| 1:00.9 | And Greg, many of us are quick to point out what our spouse is doing wrong. |
| 1:05.9 | This happened to me over the weekend recently. |
| 1:08.6 | I was thinking, if she would just, and then the Lord just caught me and said, |
| 1:12.6 | what about you, Johnny? |
| 1:13.7 | Look in the mirror. |
| 1:14.5 | Yeah. |
| 1:14.7 | Go back to the mirror. |
| 1:15.5 | This is a pretty big deal for a healthy couple, isn't it? |
| 1:18.6 | Yeah, it really is. |
| 1:20.1 | I mean, the research is so clear that distress couples become very highly attuned to their |
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