Healthy vs. Unhealthy Discussion Patterns

Love Over Addiction

Michelle Anderson

Relationships, Society & Culture

4.8 • 1.5K Ratings

🗓️ 14 June 2020

⏱️ 31 minutes

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Summary

When we love someone suffering from addiction, we may feel crazy when we try to talk to them about an issue or something going on.

You may find yourself questioning whether or not this is normal.

You may have forgotten what a healthy discussion looks like. When we love someone suffering from addiction, our 'normal' is much different than everyone else's.

On today's episode you'll hear a couple of examples about what a healthy discussion looks like and what an unhealthy one looks like.

And exactly how to handle it if you're in the 'unhealthy' discussion pattern.

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0:00.0	You're listening to the Love Over Addiction Podcast. Hey there, so how are you doing? Are you hanging in? I think it's the beginning of summer for just about everyone.
0:26.0	The virus is still going on and I think we're all getting used to the new normal of wearing masks everywhere.
0:32.0	I just went to get my hair done finally and it
0:37.8	was weird. I had to sanitize my hands, I had to take my temperature, I had to wear a mask it was crazy I'm not going to say I'm a
0:46.4	fan of this but I don't think anyone is so I definitely respect people's priorities
0:56.3	But I can't wait for this thing to be over and go back to normal I bet you can't either all right today we are going to be talking about arguing, fighting, confronting, voicing how you feel and specifically I'm going to teach you what it looks like to be in a relationship
1:18.5	with a healthy person, someone who does not have a history of struggling with addiction and what
1:25.1	fighting and arguing looks like with a healthy relationship versus what fighting and arguing looks like when you are struggling with
1:35.4	addiction in your relationship. And I'm doing this because I remember when I was
1:41.0	married to a great man who was struggling with addiction and I always
1:46.8	questioned like is this normal when we would fight I'd be like is it me? Did I bring you know all these negative
1:56.6	behaviors or patterns into our relationship? Is this how normal people argue? Do they
2:01.8	feel as frustrated as this? And I was constantly comparing
2:06.5	what was normal to me living with addiction if that was normal for other people?
2:13.0	And how often do you run into couples that really go into detail about how they fight?
2:18.0	I mean, a lot of people don't really share that information.
2:21.0	So now that I'm in a healthy relationship and a healthy
2:24.4	marriage I want to share with you what it looks like and what it sounds like
2:29.0	when you're fighting so that you can compare and also I think it's really important to take note that it is
2:37.2	normal to argue in any type of relationship whether you're dealing with addiction or not, when I left my husband who was
2:47.3	struggling with addiction, that was a huge wake-up call for me going into my next relationship and seeing oh it's it's not
2:58.2	perfect and there is no such thing as perfect and I kind of had to adjust my expectations a little bit and go
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