Healing Insecure Attachments in Relationships
Lisa A Romano Breakdown to Breakthroughs
Lisa A. Romano
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🗓️ 22 May 2023
⏱️ 28 minutes
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Summary
Healing an insecure attachment is key to developing healthy long-lasting relationships with others. Those who have been raised by emotionally abusive, or neglectful parents, have been conditioned to live in fear. Childhood abandonment wounds that go unresolved manifest as codependency, insecurity, a need to please, and a fear of abandonment. One who suffers from an insecure attachment will find it impossible to trust. They may become jealous and seek constant reassurance from the ones they love. To heal, from an insecure attachment style, it is essential to identify this in yourself as a starting point. From there, recognizing the behaviors that drive people away, and fuel your need for reassurance can be accomplished through a commitment to healing the wounded inner child, as well as consciousness. In reality, all beings are enough and the only thing that is wrong with them, is their programming. The journey back to the divine self, requires an awakening from the false self.
If you are ready to heal thy self, and live fearlessly, without the need for assurance and approval or the fear of abandonment, visit https://www.lisaaromano.com/12wbp
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| 0:00.0 | So let's talk a little bit about what an insecure attachment style is. What is this attachment style? |
| 0:07.1 | Let's put it this way. If you came from a home where you felt seen, where you felt like the |
| 0:12.5 | people who raised you were reliable, if you grew up in a home that was consistent, that was |
| 0:18.0 | supportive, a home that was nurturing, a home that taught you that if |
| 0:22.5 | you had an emotional need, there was someone that you could turn to that would validate |
| 0:28.0 | your needs and set time aside to make sure that you felt seen and that you felt heard. |
| 0:34.8 | If you grew up in this type of a home, then the parents who raised you were emotionally |
| 0:39.5 | regulated. They were not codependent. They were not narcissistic. They were not unable to regulate |
| 0:48.7 | their own emotions enough so that they could tend to yours. When you grow up in a home that has allowed you to develop a secure attachment to others, |
| 0:59.6 | there's a sense that you've grown up believing that you are good and you are worthy |
| 1:04.1 | to receive. |
| 1:05.1 | You are good enough. |
| 1:06.5 | There's a sense that people are trustworthy and that if you have an issue, if you have a need, you can |
| 1:12.7 | turn to your friend without worrying about what they think about you, without anxiety, without |
| 1:19.4 | the worry of coming off like a burden or feeling weak, or without the constant rumination |
| 1:26.2 | and the constant emotional stress over what people are going to think about you presenting with the need. |
| 1:33.3 | If you grew up in a home, however, to the contrary, where things weren't always predictable for you. |
| 1:39.3 | Perhaps you experienced abandonment. Perhaps your dad left the family when you were young. |
| 1:46.0 | Perhaps there was a death in your family. Perhaps, God forbid, mom passed away when you needed her the most. |
| 1:53.0 | Or perhaps your parents were dysregulated. Perhaps your parents were narcissistic. |
| 1:58.0 | Perhaps you had emotionally immature parents. Perhaps you were a child of alcoholism. |
| 2:04.3 | Perhaps there was some addiction issue in your home and therefore unpredictability. When children are |
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