Healing from self-hatred
All In The Mind
ABC
4.4 • 785 Ratings
🗓️ 10 January 2026
⏱️ 30 minutes
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Summary
Many of us have felt self loathing at some point in our lives — maybe when you've failed at an important task at work, or lost an important relationship.
But some people hate themselves all the time — their inner monologue is a constant drumbeat of self-criticism and self-loathing.
Where does this kind of all-encompassing self-hate come from? And is there a way to unlearn it?
We speak to psychiatrist Dr Blaise Aguirre, author of I Hate Myself: Overcome Self-Loathing and Realize Why You're Wrong About You.
This episode discusses the topic of suicide - please take care while listening.
This episode first aired in February 2025.
Guest:
Dr Blaise AguirreChild and adolescent psychiatristAssistant Professor of Psychiatry, Harvard Medical SchoolAuthor, I Hate Myself: Overcome Self-Loathing and Realize Why You're Wrong About You
Credits:
- Presenter/producer: Sana Qadar
- Senior producer: James Bullen
- Producer: Rose Kerr
- Sound engineer: Isabella Tropiano
Thanks to Freesound.org users 7by7, qubodup, laft2k, andre.nascimento
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Resources:
You can catch up on more episodes of the All in the Mind podcast with journalist and presenter Sana Qadar, exploring the psychology of topics like stress, memory, communication and relationships on the ABC Listen app (Australia) or wherever you get your podcasts.
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| 0:43.6 | Okay, here is the scenario. You are at a dinner party. You're having a good time, |
| 0:50.5 | you're chatting to people, you're feeling chill, and then you drop a glass of wine. All over the cream-colored carpet. Oh no. And no, this isn't white or even rosé. |
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| 0:57.4 | That's definitely going to stain. |
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| 1:01.7 | If you're like me, you feel awful and embarrassed, and you're apologizing profusely |
| 1:07.1 | and promising to never drink red wine again. |
| 1:09.7 | You say, look, I'll, I'll pay to get it cleaned up, I'm a klutz, |
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