Hi everybody. Welcome to the Women's Dating and Confidence Podcast. My name is Amber, and today,

one of the listeners of the podcast came on to share with me a question that she had about a situation

ship that she was in and she was kind of confused about this person's hot and cold

behavior and what to do going forward. So we're going to dig into that. I should mention to you that

for the sake of time, we had been chatting for at least 10 minutes before what I'm about to share with you. So she shared a lot more information about her situation that I didn't include just for time's sake. But basically this person was showing up partially for a relationship and not 100%

and that's what we're going to talk about today. Before we get into that, I want to share with you my

free guide called copy and paste texts for when he's pulling away or acting flaky. And the link for

that is going to be in the show notes of this episode.

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notified about that, make sure you get the guide, copy and paste text, because then you'll

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reopens. Until then, you can get my audio course called The Solution to Dating Anxiety with exercises

and lessons about how to feel more calm and confident in dating. The link for that is going to be

in the show notes as well. All right, let's get into

the listener question. So let's actually just start with the end. What is the question about

this situation? I guess I just want to know, know like one, I want to let this go.

Like I, I feel like I should let this go because we've talked a little bit through text,

but I have not reached out and neither has he. I guess my question is, do I just say to the heck

with it and move on? My friends are telling me like, this isn't worth it because this was like a big test

for me to see if I'm not, I'm not seeing boundaries. And I guess like, why do I, you know, I don't know. I mean, I don't really know. Like part of me wants to see what happens with it, but the part of me doesn't because of all these signs that it's like, know what i want somebody who's going to choose me

because they want to choose me not because they're lonely not because they're bored

you know and i feel like to a certain extent i get that energy that that's what he's doing to me

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