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I wanted to deal with a slightly delicate issue today in many relationships

and this occurs in both old and new relationships is when we find that our partner finds somebody else hot.

This is a really sensitive issue for people because they get quite upset at the idea that their partner could be attracted to somebody else.

You may find it out third-hand, they might make a joke about someone they see on TV and they think they're really attractive.

It may even be about someone you know which for most people stings even more when it's someone that you both know.

So how do you deal with it when your partner thinks somebody else is attractive and it's kind of eating away at you inside because it's making you very jealous and very sensitive?

Well the first thing, you know, look, this is, I want to offer you a reframe on this whole thing because I've been in this exact position before

where I've been feeling jealous that somebody I'm with finds someone else attractive and I sit back and I have to say,

okay, how do I overcome this jealousy? Well firstly, we can be attracted to any human being.

There are different types of attraction, of course.

I, for example, will feel an attraction if I'm around someone who is very learned, someone who is erudite, someone who has a particular passion for their subject and can speak about it very eloquently.

I find that very attractive man or woman. I could be around a guy who really knows their stuff about something, someone who has amazing confidence and someone who really is impressive in their field and feel an attraction there.

It may not be a physical attraction but it's a form of attraction. We feel that for everyone, not just the opposite sex, we feel it for the same sex.

So there are many different types of attraction. Now one would say, yeah, but when it's someone who is the opposite sex and when it's a sexual attraction, it's different.

And we tend to compartmentalize in that way and say, well, it's okay for my partner to think somebody else is cool.

It's okay for somebody, my partner to think somebody else is impressive in what they do, but I don't want them to find them sexually attractive.

Now that's understandable because we get particularly sensitive when it becomes about sexuality, but we have to remember something.

Because there are many different forms of attraction, attraction almost exists in different dimensions.

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