He Saw His Old Crush on IG...Now He’s Unsure About Me?! #HMAY Ep. 270
How Married Are You?
Glen & Yvette Henry
4.9 • 1.4K Ratings
🗓️ 25 November 2025
⏱️ 55 minutes
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Summary
In this episode, we read an email from a listener who loves her boyfriend but doesn’t feel like his first choice. We talk insecurity vs. truth, attraction, healing from past relationships, and how to discern if you’re being chosen or just convenient.
Plus, Chocolate Baby Storytime with a family rap session, camping trip confessions, and updates on Premarital Advantage, Father Yourself First, and the Saturday men’s group for Black men.
✨ What You’ll Hear
When “I’ve got a wandering eye” is actually a confession
The difference between normal attraction and shopping for better options
Why journaling your story brings clarity
Feeling chosen vs. feeling like a backup plan
How past trauma shapes dating patterns
Why inexperience can actually be a dating superpower
Choosing your “hard” while still protecting your heart
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Transcript
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| 0:00.0 | This is what he told you by telling you that. Just so you know, I got a wandering eye. I'm looking. I shouldn't look, but I want you to know that I'm looking. And the fact that you accepted that, I don't feel comfortable with Mrs. Melan. |
| 0:29.8 | And I'm Belief Mel. |
| 0:30.7 | And we're here with episode 270 of How Married Are You? |
| 0:35.2 | Okay, my name, we'll leave Mrs this is Yvette. We married 15 years. |
| 0:39.0 | In California, we got four. |
| 0:41.3 | Relationship, scary. |
| 0:42.6 | It's very necessary. |
| 0:43.9 | We share a love of struggles. |
| 0:45.2 | We ask how married are. |
| 0:47.0 | Every 12 and 30, they're shoddy. |
| 0:49.5 | If you're listening in, the wedding party, it's okay. |
| 0:52.8 | If you want to put your hands up, we've got the questions, we got the answers. It's okay if you want to put your hands up. |
| 0:54.5 | We got the questions. |
| 0:55.8 | We got the answers. |
| 0:56.7 | It's chocolate baby story time. |
| 0:59.7 | Chocolate baby story time. |
| 1:02.0 | It's chocolate baby story time. |
| 1:04.8 | One, two, three. |
| 1:06.9 | And... |
| 1:09.9 | It's chocolate baby story time. |
| 1:12.6 | Okay, I want to talk about the little rat. |
| 1:14.6 | I wrote for everybody. |
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