He Made Valentine’s Day Reservations — Do I Owe Him a Gift?
Seeing Other People
Ilana Dunn
4.5 • 608 Ratings
🗓️ 9 February 2026
⏱️ 61 minutes
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Summary
We’re recording on the eve of our five-year “first date” anniversary and catching up on everything from freezing winter runs and challenge updates to surprise date nights and what it looks like to keep showing up for each other in the small ways. We answer a timely listener question about Valentine’s Day on a fifth date (do you bring a gift or just show up?), talk about dating your friends with more intention, and get into the tricky dynamics of breakups, like when friends suddenly admit they never liked your partner and how to support someone without piling on.
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| 0:00.0 | it's freezing cold outside and I know you came home and you're like I |
| 0:04.9 | sparkly's not going to walk until Monday now and I was walking Berkeley and I was thinking |
| 0:10.4 | and I saw people running by me which is just crazy for anybody that runs outside in this |
| 0:15.2 | weather and I was like how much would somebody have to pay me to run like a mile right now? |
| 0:22.0 | And if someone offered me $10,000 per mile right now. |
| 0:25.5 | Hold on first. |
| 0:26.4 | How much would I actually be able to run? |
| 0:28.6 | What was your answer to yourself for how much someone would have to pay you to run a mile in this weather? |
| 0:33.9 | Yeah, so I think it's a lot. |
| 0:35.9 | Like, like $500 I wouldn't do it, I don't think. Really? I mean, and I'm doing nothing today, too, so it's like free 500. That'd be the fastest $500 you've ever made, like $500 in what, like 12 minutes? Yeah, you're right. I guess that's pretty fast. It's so cold. And I haven't ran in months at this point. So, you know, I don't know. But yeah, you know what? Okay, fine. Maybe I'm reconsidering a little. I could do a mile. That's not the worst. But what would I go out in? Like I have to be in like a big puffer jacket. Am I like fully suited up? Or do I have to wear like what runners are wearing? because they're wearing not enough clothes. No, that's not true, though. We're wearing exactly what we need to wear. |
| 1:14.6 | We're wearing not enough clothes. No, that's not true though. We're wearing exactly what we need to wear. |
| 1:14.6 | We're wearing the right layers. Like Jake, you see me coming back from these runs and whatever my |
| 1:19.9 | base layer is, it is drenched in sweat. You saw this happen the other day. Like soaking wet. |
| 1:26.3 | Wasn't that from Equinox? Didn't you go to the gym that day? |
| 1:30.8 | No. When I came home drenched in sweat, that was after a run. We wear, you wear a base layer and then a jacket over it. |
| 1:39.9 | And that is enough. Anyway, if someone were to pay me $10,000 per mile to run today, how many miles do I think I can do? And it has to run. I can't walk. You can't walk any of it. If I was going to walk, it's a stop. Running in the cold is easier than walking in the cold, though, because your body's getting warm. A couple. Okay. Anyways, speaking of running, we never talk about running on this podcast. I've never talked about running in my life. |
| 2:03.6 | Anyway, it's freezing cold outside. |
| 2:05.3 | No, but speaking of running, I did something bad. |
| 2:09.1 | Will you sign up for another thing? |
| 2:11.0 | I applied for something that I swore. |
| 2:12.9 | The marathon? |
| 2:15.6 | It's like a crazy person podcast. You're a crazy person. |
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