He Cared About Me, So I Broke Up With Him

Modern Love

The New York Times

Society & Culture, Nyt, Nytimes, Loss, Redemption, Storytelling, New York Times, Love, Essay

4.3 • 9K Ratings

🗓️ 15 November 2023

⏱️ 30 minutes

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Summary

When Jessica Slice started dating a man named David, there was a lot to like about him. They could nerd out about books and board games, he was thoughtful and kind. But Jessica had a problem. The more caring David was, the more she recoiled. "He’s the greatest!" She texted her sister. "But I doubt I’ll go out with him again." This wasn’t the first time she'd felt like fleeing from affection, but something about David made Jessica hesitate. Was she finally ready for a new kind of love?

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0:00.0	Love now and
0:04.0	is more than I love.
0:05.0	Love is stronger than anything.
0:08.0	You feel love for love.
0:09.0	And I love you more than anything.
0:11.0	There's still love.
0:15.0	From the New York Times, I'm Anna Martin.
0:18.0	This is Modern Love.
0:20.0	Today's story starts on a first date, a really good one.
0:25.0	Jessica Slice was living in the Bay Area in California
0:27.8	when she met a guy on OK Cupid named David.
0:31.2	David suggested they meet in the Berkeley Rose Garden for their first date.
0:35.0	Take notes, people, that is a good first date spot.
0:38.0	Doesn't always have to be a bar.
0:39.0	When Jessica showed up to the garden, David had brought a bag of books based on things
0:43.5	they've been messaging about online. Jessica had brought something to, something
0:49.1	a little less romantic. I had actually brought a strategy tile game with pictures of different bugs on it.
1:00.3	Wow. Okay. The truth is I often brought it on dates hoping that they would want to play it with me that even if the date didn't work out. I might at least get to play a few rounds of hive.
1:13.2	Oh, I love hive, I love hive.
1:15.0	Wait, you do?
1:16.0	Yeah, I do.
1:16.7	I'm really bad at it.
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