Hey there, Jen here, and this is a happy bit. I want to talk about building better boundaries with our

kids. Boundaries. We know we need them. And when we first learn about boundaries, studies show we tend to

maybe take a more rigid approach to those boundaries, even a cold approach. For example,

let's say your teenagers at your door and wanting something,

you've clearly said no two or three times and they're still there trying to argue.

You feel your energy sucking out of your body. You feel your frustration rising. You're about

to lose it. So you quickly create a boundary by saying, you know what?

You're making me frustrated. I can't talk about this right now. The answer is no.

And you shut the door in their face. Boundary, totally valid. It's a better boundary than having

none at all. However, when you feel that you've mastered that type of

boundary, I recently learned from my friend Gina Brotman from episode 105 that there is an even

better way, which really resonated for me. Now, it might not resonate for you, but I want to share

it and you can kind of feel into whether

that might be right for you and for your family and for your situation.

So Gina told me about compassionate boundaries.

We all know compassion is feeling with another person, feeling empathy and simultaneously

showing love through connection and feeling and emotion.

Well, a compassionate boundary might look like this.

Let's say that same teenager is at the door and trying to argue with you about a rule you have

given them or something you've always had as a family rule and they don't like it.

They've argued several times.

You're feeling your tension rising. But instead of just shutting that door, you add a little

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