Happily with Kevin A. Thompson
Sex Chat for Christian Wives
Chris Taylor
4.7 • 885 Ratings
🗓️ 4 February 2019
⏱️ 36 minutes
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Summary
Our guest today is Kevin A. Thompson, the lead pastor at Community Bible Church in western Arkansas, speaks at marriage and parenting conferences, and has authored three books, the most recent one titled Happily: 8 Commitments of Couples Who Laugh, Love & Last.
- In Happily, you start by talking about how we tend to think happy or unhappy marriages are a product of luck or unspoken rules like marrying the right person. We've also heard this with the idea of sexual compatibility. What do y'all think about that idea?
- You have eight commitments outlined in Happily, but one stuck out to me in particular about how we can misuse apathy and aggression in marriage. How do spouses misuse apathy and aggression when dealing with sex in their marriage?
- Kevin, you've been bold on your blog about how women should be treated with respect, speaking for #MeToo and other issues. We've also talked about that here. But how can wives get husbands to understand their experiences with harassment and abuse without seeming like we're man-bashing?
- You're a pastor, and while you can't speak for all the others, we get this question sometimes and wonder how you'd answer: Why don't pastors preach and teach more about sex?
- What if a wife is experiencing sexual issues in her marriage? How should she approach her male pastor, and what safeguards should be in place?
Kevin A. Thompson's book is Happily: 8 Commitments of Couples Who Laugh, Love & Last, and check out his previous marriage book, Friends, Partners, and Lovers and his blog.
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From the Bible
"Jesus said:
'Blessed are the poor in spirit,
for theirs is the kingdom of heaven.
Blessed are those who mourn,
for they will be comforted.
Blessed are the meek,
for they will inherit the earth.
Blessed are those who hunger and thirst for righteousness,
for they will be filled.
Blessed are the merciful,
for they will be shown mercy.
Blessed are the pure in heart,
for they will see God.
Blessed are the peacemakers,
for they will be called children of God.
Blessed are those who are persecuted because of righteousness,
for theirs is the kingdom of heaven.'" – Matthew 5:3-10
"Likewise, teach the older women to be reverent in the way they live, not to be slanderers or addicted to much wine, but to teach what is good. Then they can urge the younger women to love their husbands and children, to be self-controlled and pure, to be busy at home, to be kind, and to be subject to their husbands, so that no one will malign the word of God. " – Titus 2:3-5
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| 0:00.0 | Welcome to sex chat for Christian wives. |
| 0:12.0 | We're four marriage and sex bloggers discuss the naked truth. |
| 0:16.0 | What does God really want for the sexual intimacy in our marriage? |
| 0:20.0 | I'm Jay Parker of Hot Holy and Humorous. I'm Chris Taylor |
| 0:23.4 | from the Forgiven Wife. I'm Gay Christmas of Calm, Healthy, Sexy. I'm Bonnie Burns of Oyster Bed 7. |
| 0:35.1 | We are doing something bold today. |
| 0:40.3 | We're letting a guy into the girls only club. |
| 0:47.0 | While our podcast focuses on wives talking to wives, we've all had great impressions of today's guest and wanted him to come on and talk a little with us. |
| 0:58.5 | Kevin A. Thompson is the lead pastor at community Bible church in Western Arkansas, speaks at marriage and parenting conferences, and has authored two books, the most recent one titled Happily, Eight Commitments of Couples Who Laugh, Love, and Last. |
| 1:00.4 | Welcome to our virtual kitchen table, Kevin. |
| 1:03.7 | Well, Jay, thanks so much for having me, and Chris and Gay and Bonnie. |
| 1:04.8 | It's an honor to be with you. |
| 1:09.8 | I'm fans of yours from afar and on social media, so it's great to be with you in person. |
| 1:11.4 | We're happy to have you thanks thank you for being here yeah you're kind of bold to be around all this estrogen so i feel i feel like |
| 1:17.9 | it's a tremendous honor seriously i feel like i'm entering into safe space so i hope i honored it properly |
| 1:21.6 | well hey um although your latest book is about marriage generally since we talk about sex we're |
| 1:26.0 | going to apply a couple of your points to the marriage bed we hope hope that's okay. Our first question is in happily, you start by |
| 1:30.9 | talking about how we tend to think happy or unhappy marriages are a product of luck or unspoken |
| 1:36.4 | rules like you have to marry the right person. We've also heard this idea about the marriage bed |
| 1:41.1 | and sexual compatibility. So I want to know what y'all think of this idea. |
| 1:44.6 | Yeah, I think that's absolutely right. |
| 1:45.9 | That's the perception. |
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