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Don't Mom Alone Podcast

Habits of a Healthy Marriage :: Paul David Tripp [Ep 234]

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Education, Leisure, Kids & Family, Parenting

4.9 • 2.3K Ratings

🗓️ 11 February 2019

⏱️ 53 minutes

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Summary

Whether you’ve been married for a short time or you’re nearing a milestone anniversary, a healthy marriage takes a lot of work. A marriage is made up of thousands of small moments and habits that over time result in God-honoring, joyful marriage or a self-centered, strained marriage.

Speaker and author Paul David Tripp joins me to lay the groundwork for how to cultivate healthy habits in our marriage and identify the ones that need to be uprooted. He shares what he’s learned in almost 50 years of marriage and how to look at our marriages in light of the gospel.

What's a biblical view of marriage? Well, it's a sinner married to a sinner in a fallen world. Are you encouraged yet? But with a faithful God. Now that means we can't just coast in our marriage because there are things inside of me and things inside of my wife that are potentially destructive to marriage because we're not perfect people yet. And we live in a fallen world that is a threat to our marriage.

Paul also calls us to take a new view of our spouse’s differences and see how God created us for unity, not uniformity.

There is no call anywhere in the Bible to uniformity. The call is for unity. Unity is only ever needed in the face of difference... We have to stop making those differences a matter of right and wrong, If it's not named as sin by God, then it's just a difference and God actually glories in those differences because those differences point to his grandeur as a creator.

I hope you are encouraged and equipped from this conversation to re-engage with your spouse with fresh faith for experiencing all that God has for you in your marriage.

What we chat about:

  • Marriages are made up of thousands and thousands of little moments
  • The kind of relationship we have built in those moments determines how we handle the big moments
  • We naturally structure our marriages around habits
  • How to identify good and bad habits in your marriage
  • Sin makes us self-focused and anti-social, but marriage is a covenant of community
  • Helping our spouse access what God wants for them instead of arguing or nagging them
  • We will always be working on our marriages. There is no place for coasting
  • Confession and forgiveness can change the direction in disagreements
  • Jesus did not just bare our guilt. He bore our shame
  • God made us for unity, not for uniformity
  • A look at why we are so vastly different from our spouse
  • Even when we are formed into the image of Jesus, we will still be different from our spouse
  • Tips for showing gratitude in your marriage and fostering joy
  • The fruits of the Spirit are key for a good marriage
  • If you are struggling in marriage, engage with community and your church family. Isolation is the enemy of a healthy marriage
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Transcript

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0:00.0

Hey y'all welcome back to the Don't Mom Alone podcast. I'm your host Heather McFadian and

0:12.5

this is a place where I'm going to walk alongside you and connect you with people and resources

0:18.5

that remind you you're not alone. In this episode number 234 I have the pleasure of bringing

0:24.7

back one of y'all's favorites Paul David trip. What the cross teaches me is that there's nothing

0:33.2

that could ever be known revealed or exposed in me that hasn't already been covered by the blood of

0:40.9

Jesus and that belief then allows me to lay down my defenses. I'm free from the burden of self-defensiveness.

0:50.8

I'm free for the burden of trying to convince you that I'm righteous. I'm freed from all of that.

0:55.6

That stuff is burdensome and the beautiful thing about the gospel is good things are on the other

1:03.4

side of confession and if you establish rather than defending your righteousness if you establish

1:11.1

a relationship of confession and forgiveness good things happen because the the legacy of confession

1:18.9

forgiveness is I walk away from that conversation thinking good things of you how humble my husband was,

1:27.2

how forgiving my wife was, how ready this person is to love me when I'm not very lovable that

1:33.2

endears that person to me. Y'all have heard Paul before and you love how he's helped us understand

1:40.8

the gospel and how it applies to parenting go check out those episodes there in the show notes if

1:45.8

you haven't heard them before. Today we're focusing in on marriage. Personally I have been burdened by

1:52.5

listener questions and our community and just seeing the attack on marriage and understanding

1:59.4

personally the pressure our marriages are under when we have young kids and so I'm hopeful that

2:05.8

this conversation will point us to the truth of God's Word and you know any person who's been married

2:12.2

as long as Paul has and is happy as their marriage is I'm ready to listen I don't know about y'all.

2:17.7

We talk about what if you are the one spouse who wants to work on your marriage and Paul drops a

2:24.2

little truth bombs here and they're about that. We also wanted to bring up the topic that of course

2:30.3

whenever we talk about marriage if abuse is at all a part of your story please reach out to your

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