Grief & The Holidays | Ep. 369
Awesome Marriage Podcast
Dr. Kim Kimberling
4.9 • 813 Ratings
🗓️ 17 October 2019
⏱️ 31 minutes
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Summary
The holidays can highlight grief and loss in our life. It's a time that is centered around nostalgia, memories, and family. So it's no surprise that the holidays can bring up a lot of grief for people who have experienced loss.
In this episode Dr. Kim and Christina talk about grief and how to support each other as a married couple as one or both of you grieve.
NOTEWORTHY QUOTES
- "During the holidays, set aside time to think about the person you've lost. " - Dr. Kim
- "Don't smother your feelings, take time to grieve your lost loved one." - Dr. Kim
- "Don't feel like you have to say the perfect thing to your grieving spouse. Just be there for them." - Dr. Kim
- "The way you deal with grief is by going through it." - Dr. Kim
- "You can cling to the promises of God found in the Bible when you're grieving." - Christina
- "Jesus shows us that it's ok to grieve." - Dr. Kim
- "God can handle your questions and anger." - Christina
- "Everyone experiences grief differently." - Dr. Kim
- "Give your spouse lots of grace as they grieve." - Dr. Kim
- "You can't fix the situation for your spouse but you can walk with them through it." - Dr. Kim
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Transcript
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| 0:00.0 | The holidays can highlight grief and loss in our lives. |
| 0:06.2 | It's a time that is centered around nostalgia, memories, and family. |
| 0:09.7 | So it's no surprise that the holidays can bring up a lot of grief for people who have experienced loss. |
| 0:14.6 | Today, Dr. Kim and I are going to be talking about grief and how to support each other as a married couple as one or both of you grieve. |
| 0:20.5 | We talk a lot about loss as well as suicide loss, so I do want to give that warning in here. |
| 0:24.8 | We don't talk about death itself in detail, but we do talk about the pain of it afterwards. |
| 0:30.4 | Welcome to the Awesome Marriage Podcast, a place for honest conversations about marriage and practical advice on how to have a God-honoring awesome marriage. |
| 0:39.0 | I am your podcast producer and co-host Christina Dodson. On the show will be your host, |
| 0:43.4 | Dr. Kim Kim is a marriage counselor and has been married for over 40 years. His passion is to help |
| 0:50.2 | you strengthen your most intimate relationship. |
| 1:00.1 | What are the different ways that grief can play out over the holidays, Dr. Kim? |
| 1:04.5 | Well, obviously grief affects us in a number of different ways, but if we're talking like the loss of the loved one at that, it certainly can be a big deal because it's, you know, |
| 1:09.1 | there's an empty chair at the dinner table there is |
| 1:11.6 | someone not there maybe you always put stockings up and that person's stocking's not there that |
| 1:17.5 | year and just some things like that and I think it's because we we build up things in our mind about |
| 1:23.2 | the holidays a lot we how we want to be perfect and those kind of things. And so there's |
| 1:28.6 | just a lot attached to that. And so when someone's not there, that's an important part of that, |
| 1:33.2 | it's a difficult thing. One thing I saw in a family a few years ago that I really hadn't thought |
| 1:38.7 | of, but in this family, the wife had died probably the first 10 days of December, something close. |
| 1:47.1 | And so I talked to them a lot and everything. |
| 1:49.3 | You know, we talked about the thing that Christmas. |
| 1:51.0 | Well, what happened was they were so in shock that Christmas. |
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