Thank you for listening to the Allender Center podcast.

I'm Dr. Dan Allender.

And I'm Rachel Clinton-Centen.

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And restoration for the heart.

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Well, Rachel, we are closer and closer to the infamous moments where we gather with our families for this succession of indulgence football or whatever sport you watch and a few statements likely around the table of what you're grateful for for this year.

So we're back into the frame of gratitude.

But we're going to focus here on your family of origin.

And how now do we fully enter into this intersection of grief and gratitude with regard to our family of origin?

Let's just say it's not easy.

I can tell you one particular table conversation.

This was a number of years ago, actually quite a few years ago.

And our children, I don't think any of them were married at that point.

And we gathered and Becky said... I think I remember this story and I've been like, I think I took a note like, you really have to decide if you ever want to

offer that someday many years down the road. Yeah, she writes about this in, uh, in her book. And Becky does.

Yeah. And it just was disastrous.

Like, let's all just talk about how grateful we are.

And especially, let's be grateful for our family.

Oh, my gosh.

Sadly, wonderfully, you know, we've allowed our children to tell the truth, at least up to a point.

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