Hey y'all welcome back to the Dope Mom Alone podcast. I'm your host Heather McFadian and

this is the place where I'm gonna walk alongside you and connect you with people and resources

remind you that you're not alone. In this episode number 237 I'm inviting back a popular

guest, Karris Kimmel Murray. Good discipline is responding, not reacting. When we're reacting,

we're not thinking about what's best for our kids very often. We're thinking about maybe what's

best for us. You know if we choose to take it personally then we stay stuck in our emotions in a

victim mindset and we can't think clearly and I'm not saying take the rules away or don't have the

same expectations but when we can see our kid you know the way that God sees them we can approach

them with love and kindness but also with discipline and say it's in your best interest that you learn

to obey these rules. It's just that mental shift of good discipline is for our kids. It's not about us.

Karris is the author of the book Grace Based Discipline which is now a video series available

through right now media. We'll talk more about that at the end of the show but she's a perfect

person to talk to us about the topic. One her dad is Dr. Kimmel who wrote Grace Based parenting

and two she keeps it real. Karris lets us know that she has ADHD. Her daughter's been diagnosed

and her husband has recently so she's not presenting this everything's perfect and rosy scenario from

which she's having to learn Grace Based Discipline. She helps us understand what needs are perhaps

going unmet that are causing the misbehavior that we're wanting to quote unquote discipline.

We talk through how do you know something isn't a diagnosis related behavior versus something

that needs to be corrected and more than anything we're always pointing back to the gospel

and how we can love our children and deal with the misbehavior separate from them.

I love sharing resources with you particularly ones that you are able to participate in from

the comforts of your home through the interwebs. I in January shared with you the connected families

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