Going Through A Break Up: What Should I Be Doing?

The Angry Therapist Podcast

John Kim

Mental Health, Health & Fitness

4.6 • 1.1K Ratings

🗓️ 15 May 2023

⏱️ 21 minutes

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Summary

In this episode, John gives advice and answers a listener's question: what should I be doing if I'm going through a break up I can't get over?

Roughly ten minutes of self help in a shot glass. If you're looking for a wine glass, you've come to the wrong place. Marriage family therapist and best-selling author, John Kim, shares his life and love revelations as well as insights from his sessions. He pulls the curtain back and documents his journey as a therapist but more importantly, as a human being.

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0:00.0	Hi, my name is John Kim. I'm a therapist who went through his own rebirth many years ago
0:05.6	and I've been documenting my journey ever since sharing my life lessons and revelations.
0:10.4	I believe in casual or clinical with you instead of at you. I come unrehearsed on purpose because
0:17.0	Seffel doesn't have to be so popular.
0:20.0	Hi there, My name is, I can't say the name obviously, let's call them John. My name is John.
0:28.2	My name is John and I'm 21 and I've recently been through a breakup with my sort of long-distance girlfriend of nearly 1.5 years and I'm still reeling from it.
0:42.0	I feel that we ended things very respectfully
0:46.0	Where we're just changing and grew apart
0:49.2	It still hurts but gives me hope that one day we can come back together as different people and
0:58.4	start over when we have our shit together. I'm trying my best to focus on myself and to do my very best, but I still
1:08.2	struggle with the whole thing. Is there any advice you would have for me? I'm currently reading you in Vanessa's book. It's not me. It's you on relationships and have found it really helpful. Thank you John. I feel like I have learned a lot about looking inward and doing my best
1:26.8	about owning my part in a relationship. The first thing I want to say is,
1:34.0	holy shit, John, you should be proud of yourself at 21
1:39.0	for just having interest in this, you know?
1:42.0	When I was 21, what was I doing? I was masturbating a lot.
1:48.6	I was rushing the top house of a fraternity so I wouldn't have to masturbate a lot. I was seeking
1:57.9	lots of validation and approval from the cool kids, older kids in my university at my university and my college life
2:08.0	sucked and I had no idea what I wanted to do with my life.
2:13.8	So, I mean, I was just a few years away from stealing car stereos and not paying it drive-thrus to impress the cheerleaders in the backseat of my
2:27.8	jeep and so you at 21 wanting to reflect on this relationship that has expired and you wanting to do some work and look inward that is amazing.
2:41.0	And I got to be honest, this is a generalization but I feel like men kind of
2:46.8	turned the corner like mid to late 30s I don't I know I didn't turn the corner until then, you know, and it took something
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