We are in the midst of a series of messages that we have called pretty ugly people and we're talking about basically how not to be fooled by the curb appeal when we deal with with ourselves in the mirror and when we are making decisions

about who to date and who to allow into our lives,

we're learning to do better and to look deeper.

Because charm is deceitful. This is where we began four weeks ago.

Charm is deceitful and beauty, humanly speaking, is fleeting, but where there's a depth of character and specifically a fear of God, that's

praiseworthy forever.

To not be tricked into being obsessed with things that are trivial.

That's really where we've been trying to hang out.

And we've been talking about how to develop

our own inner beauty.

And this week, we want to talk about the fact that what's true in a life is also true in circumstances.

That we can't always judge what we see as an accurate representation of what's really going on.

Just like it would be a mistake to see someone at a social event or a school

and to fall for them because they're so good looking without really taking some time to get to know who they are on the inside.

It's also a mistake to deal with difficult circumstances in life and to make a snap judgment about what's happening just because something is hard.

What I want to talk to you today about is how to remain pretty even when life is ugly.

What do we do when life hands us bitter pills to swallow and

specifically how to not become bitter just because at that moment the situation that we're dealing with is.

Is it possible that we could remain beautiful even in the midst of things we're facing

that there's no way to describe it except these things are ugly? the a big twist I was talking to our college students to the day and there's a

Q&A and one of the questions they asked is how do you figure out your surprise

endings and I was like what do you mean there sometimes like the ending is like a big like

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