God Exposed My Dead Works as a Husband
Established Family Podcast
Derek Palizay
5.0 • 585 Ratings
🗓️ 11 February 2026
⏱️ 43 minutes
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Summary
There was a season in my life where I was striving at full effort as a husband… and producing nothing that carried eternal weight.I was praying.I was working.I was trying.I was providing.But I was unfit for good works.In this episode, I share openly from the heart of a husband who had to come to grips with a hard truth: you can be saved, gifted, and sincere — and still build your marriage on dead works.If you’ve ever felt like nothing in your marriage is enough…If your effort seems to leak out like wages in a bag with holes (Haggai 1)…If you are exhausted from fighting, striving, proving, performing…This conversation is for you.We walk through:The difference between trials and temptation — and the crisis-point where obedience is decidedHow dead works quietly take over Christian marriagesWhy some husbands are working hard but producing no fruitWhat it means to be created for good works (Ephesians 2:10)How your marriage is one of the primary ways you express your salvationI share the moment in my own deliverance journey where I wrote in my journal:“God, give me a revelation of good works.”I didn’t fully understand what I was asking for — but my spirit knew something was missing.Good works are not self-generated effort.They are works that originate from God’s nature, align with His design, and were prepared in advance for you to walk in.When a husband builds in his own name, the home carries strain.When a husband builds in God’s name, the home carries provision.Hebrews 9 tells us the blood of Christ cleanses our conscience from dead works so that we may serve the living God. That cleansing is not abstract theology — it changes how you lead your home.Your marriage is not just a relationship.It is one of the clearest places your salvation becomes visible.If this episode challenges you, comment below:What does a revelation of good works look like for you in your marriage?And if the Holy Spirit is convicting you — don’t resist it.Repent of dead works.Discard the former self.Build with gold, not straw.There is fruit waiting on the other side of obedience.
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| 0:00.0 | Welcome back to the Estabas Family Podcast where today I'm going to talk about how God rebuked me for my |
| 0:05.3 | dead works inside of my marriage as a husband and brought me into the revelation of good works that |
| 0:10.6 | produce good fruit for my marriage. So today's episode is brought to you by established family |
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| 0:21.7 | the stages of marriage. My wife and I personally work with a handful of clients under care |
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| 0:42.6 | go to Establishfamily.com slash program and I'll see you in your first session. |
| 0:46.9 | Let's hop into today's episode. |
| 0:48.4 | What's going on everybody? |
| 0:49.5 | Dare Pousa here back with another episode of the Established Family podcast. |
| 0:53.7 | Today I'm going to be talking a little |
| 0:56.0 | bit from a vulnerable place as well as teaching and some biblical foundation around the process |
| 1:02.3 | that God brought me through as he delivered me from being a husband who was unfit for any good |
| 1:09.6 | thing and any good work into a son of God who reflected the image |
| 1:14.4 | of what God was doing from the inside out inside of my life. And so my deliverance became the |
| 1:20.1 | deliverance of the home, became the deliverance of our children, and what we began walking |
| 1:24.4 | forward in an increasing nature over time. |
| 1:28.1 | And so my hope and prayer for you as the established family today is that you would receive |
| 1:32.4 | a revelation and a portion specifically set aside for you and your family, |
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