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The Mel Robbins Podcast

Goal Setting Toolkit: Why Behavior Change Often Fails & How to Set the Right Goals for You

The Mel Robbins Podcast

SiriusXM Podcasts

Society & Culture, Self-improvement, Education, Mental Health, Relationships, Health & Fitness

4.615.3K Ratings

🗓️ 5 January 2023

⏱️ 60 minutes

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Summary

This episode will help you set the right goals for you. Goals matter. They make your life easier and they create a sense of purpose and meaning. But most people don’t set goals the right way, which is why they fail before they even start. That’s not going to be you. This episode is a comprehensive toolkit that will help you set the goals that inspire you and make you feel excited about the year ahead. And, it’s part of our month-long series covering the foundational research and topics related to creating a better life. Today, you’re not only going to learn the correct way to set goals according to research, you’re also going to identify 1-3 goals for yourself, and I’ll be doing the same thing right along with you. Have no idea what your goals are or where to even start? Don’t worry; you will by the end of the episode. You’ll apply the latest research every single step of the way. And that’s not all. You can access a free companion workbook at melrobbins.com/goals that will walk you through everything we’re talking about so you can go even deeper into this conversation. Expect your goals to change as you listen to this episode, so don’t worry about doing any of this “right.” By the end of this episode you will have even taken the first steps toward your goal. How cool is that? I can’t wait. Let’s get started. Xo Mel For full show notes, including all research mentioned in the episode, go to melrobbins.com/podcast. For a free worksheet that dives deeper into the episode and helps you apply what you learn, click here. In this episode, you’ll learn: 1:15: How do I set goals the right way? 2:56: Why setting goals is so important: the truth from research 8:24: The exciting new research about goals from Dr. Birkman that you need to know 10:56: My three goals for 2023 13:05: I’m answering your top question about goals 13:27: Four science-backed hacks to use when you’re not sure what your goals are 16:20: Three qualities of the best goals 21:48: Two components of a goal that you’ve got to have in order to achieve it 27:07: What neuroscience says about why your brain needs these two components 31:25: The five mistakes we all make when we set and try to achieve goals 42:41: A powerful question about goals from Columbia University researchers that you should ask yourself 44:57: Why setting a “high-low range goal” will make you more successful 50:33: The most important thing you should do once you set a goal 53:06: Here’s the crazy irony about achieving your goals Disclaimer

Transcript

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0:00.0

Hey, it's your friend Mel and welcome to a tactical and absolutely amazing episode for

0:08.2

you goal achievers out there of the Mel Robbins podcast.

0:12.8

Hey, I'm Mel Robbins.

0:18.6

I'm a New York Times bestselling author and one of the most trusted experts in the world

0:22.8

on behavior change and motivation.

0:25.4

And that brings me to today's topic, goal setting.

0:28.8

A goal setting, it sounds simple, right?

0:31.7

You just set a goal then you go after it.

0:34.7

Goal setting is something that I screwed up for years.

0:39.0

I was the poster child of making resolutions and of being an all talk no walk.

0:45.4

I was part of the 81% of people that abailed on my resolutions by the time January 1st rolled

0:52.0

around.

0:53.4

That is, until I dug into the research, read the books, studied the experts, and I was

0:58.7

experts and figured out how you set goals and do it right according to what research has

1:04.4

to say.

1:05.4

And I want to talk to you about this today because I am getting an avalanche of questions

1:10.5

and messages about setting goals and breaking and making new habits, like this one from

1:16.4

Dave.

1:17.4

Hey, Mel, this is Dave.

1:19.6

I'm wondering if you can talk about goal setting and how they do it right.

1:23.4

There's a lot of talk about resolutions and goals, especially with the New York coming

1:26.6

up and in the past, I've had a hard time setting them and achieving goals.

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