Hey, everybody. This short segment is called a go-to.

It refers back to this crazy thing we used to do at the end of our sorority meetings in college.

If you can believe that, it was called for the good of the order.

And it was a way to share something that had emerged over the course of the week, which really was

a bit of learning or thinking or feeling that was to everyone's benefit to share. And so that's all

we'll do here. Every Friday, we release a go go-to and we encourage you to share it with friends

around the country we know that people use it as a way to stay in touch with their best friends

across the country and of course far-flung family members wherever they might be and as for your

local nearest and dearest consider it fodder for discussion over the course of the weekend.

This is Kelly Corrigan Wonders in our weekly segment called GoTo.

This week's go-to is sharing a graduation speech I wrote about something that means so much to me,

and it'll be completely obvious to you who

listen to this podcast, because it's about the simple magic of asking questions.

So here's what's going to happen.

I'm going to spend the next little bit telling you the secret of life.

You're going to forget it by dinner time.

And in 20 years, you're going to call a classmate and say, hey, what did that lady tell us again? You know, the one at graduation?

Now that we've established expectations, let's start with three stories. Number one, maybe five

or six years ago, my husband was invited to a dinner in San Francisco at this old fancy place that only lets in men.

He shaved his face and put on his only suit and headed into the city. After cocktails, they were

seated. His first impression, in his second and his third, was that the guy next to him was a real

dud. He texted me under the table. I'll be home early. Some food was served, some wine was poured,

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