Glossing over the first detail in an argument will make it fall apart fast

Love and Abuse

Paul Colaianni

Mental Health, Lies, Emotional, Health & Fitness, Psychological, Society & Culture, Deception, Manipulation, Narcissism, Verbal, Abuse, Relationships

4.6 • 816 Ratings

🗓️ 4 September 2020

⏱️ 48 minutes

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Summary

The first important point in a growing argument might be the most important one that gets glossed over. When that happens, the person trying to express what they're feeling or experiencing might feel invalidated. From that moment on, the point is lost and the conversation can spiral into anger and upset with no closure in sight.

If that's happening to you, this episode may help you stop the glossing over so that you don't get left behind in what could turn into a productive conversation.

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0:00.0	Welcome to Love and Abuse, the show about helping you identify poisonous communication and toxic behavior.
0:07.4	You deserve to be treated with respect and kindness.
0:10.9	That's why it's important that you learn to pinpoint manipulative and controlling behavior so that you keep your power and your sanity.
0:18.6	I'm your host, Paul Koliani.
0:31.4	Thank you. power and your sanity. I'm your host, Paul Koliani. Welcome to another episode of love and abuse. If you're a first-time listener, you are
0:35.4	absolutely welcome here. And if you are a long-time
0:38.7	listener, it is great to have you back. We talk about all kinds of things on this show, but they
0:44.4	really come down to manipulation, emotional abuse, control, verbal abuse, psychological abuse,
0:51.1	and all of the bad behaviors that we really don't want in our lives and a lot of
0:57.7	people can do to us in our lives. Anyone from friends, family, and especially romantic partners,
1:05.3	this is the majority of what I hear from people is they're romantic partners. And of course,
1:10.7	sometimes mother-in-laws and father-in-laws and other people that are in the family.
1:15.6	I've already mentioned family, but those specific people sometimes they stand out.
1:23.1	Sometimes the more prominent people in your significant other' family will stand out and sometimes cause problems.
1:31.6	But anyone is capable of this.
1:34.2	We are all capable of all the behavior that I talk about and some of us more than others.
1:40.0	Some of us are certifiable.
1:43.2	Maybe not you, maybe not me, but some of us are diagnosable, certifiable, capable of doing behaviors and not stopping.
1:53.4	I mean, sometimes we figure out we're doing a behavior and we want to stop.
2:00.2	And this is something that I would hope that anyone listening to the show would want to do in
2:06.7	their lives.
2:07.3	They figure out a behavior that they're doing that turns out to be something that is not
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