When his wife became pregnant with their fourth child Greg panicked, but a focus on the family counselor put everything into perspective.

He said, the first thing you need to realize if kids are a blessing, or all of the

blessing, that their gifts from God, and the second thing you said was, kids value

relationships, not stuff. Greg and his wife found the encouragement they needed and today they have a happy thriving family of seven children.

We have been really influenced by the culture and by just the kind of overall negativity about kids and to hear from someone, you know,

just godly truth that kids are special, that they're wanted and that they're a blessing was huge to us.

I'm Jim Daly and we love kids.

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What's been observed that marriage is like a magnifying glass where your true

character is revealed as you and your spouse get to know each other and

sometimes that magnifying glass highlights some of our deepest

insecurities. I'm John Fuller along with Greg and Aaron Smalley and as you to

conduct marriage conferences around the country for years.

How often do you meet couples where one or both spouses feel like I'm just a failure?

Oh, all the time, we, all of us, because we live in a fallen world, there's so many issues

and problems as we grow up, the experiences that we have, we all bring things like failure that I'm

all bring things like failure that I'm not good enough that I'll never measure up that I'm worthless

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