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Welcome to Before Breakfast, a production of I Heart Radio.

Good morning.

This is Laura. Welcome to the Before Breakfast Podcast. Today's

tip is for those times when you know you'd have wise counsel for a friend in

your situation and you could use some wise counsel for a friend in your situation,

and you could use some wise counsel yourself.

Use the third person.

Try thinking about your own situation

as you would think about a friend in a similar situation with the wisdom and calm that

come with distance.

This tip comes from psychologist Ethan Cross and his colleagues. They found that language, especially the

pronouns we use to refer to ourselves, can create self-distancing. With greater

distance we are less reactive and we're wiser in navigating challenging situations.

So how can you use pronouns to create distance?

When you're in difficult circumstances or facing a tough decision, think through your situation using third-person pronouns, he or she, or your name.

This lets you tap into the wisdom that an outside perspective offers so you can see your

own situation with clarity. It could sound something like this. Laura is on a deadline and her internet just went out. What are her options?

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