Ghosting, Simmering and Icing with Esther Perel

Note to Self

WNYC Studios

Self-improvement, Tech, Note, Npr, Education, Public, Wnyc, Manoush, York, To, New, Self, Radio, Business, Technology, Relationships, City, Society & Culture, Zomorodi, Newtechcity

4.7 • 2.7K Ratings

🗓️ 27 September 2017

⏱️ 25 minutes

🔗️ Recording | iTunes | RSS

🧾️ Download transcript

Summary

Remember being dumped? Now, technology lets us delay, deflect, and disappear. Renowned pyschotherapist Esther Perel is here to help us fall in love better.

Esther is the bestselling author of Mating in Captivity and the host of the podcast Where Should We Begin? Her new book is The State of Affairs: Rethinking Infidelity.

Transcript

Click on a timestamp to play from that location

0:00.0	Hey everybody, it's Manouche from Note To Self. I know some of you like to listen to these
0:04.3	episodes in the car with your kids. So I just want to let you know there are a couple
0:08.2	naughty words in this episode. So save it for later if you don't want to listen right
0:12.3	now.
0:13.3	I've been ghosted twice by the same girl.
0:18.6	That's happened to me before when you like to take someone and they just like don't respond
0:23.7	and you're like cool.
0:24.8	I have ghosted other people that I've gone on dates with online or whatever.
0:29.7	We had started dating and I kind of disappeared on her. So I ghosted her at first.
0:35.4	It's just very exhausting. Like online dating is very exhausting. I'm obviously not
0:39.7	supposed to meet someone in real life. It's just like for me personally, I don't know
0:43.8	where the fuck I wouldn't meet anyone in real life.
0:49.2	Note To Self. It's easier than ever to meet someone online. But turning it into a real
0:54.3	life relationship, that is another story.
0:59.0	The unspoken rules these days about what is acceptable behavior when it comes to romance
1:04.2	are completely confusing. And they are changing constantly. Plus, as you heard, they can
1:10.5	hurt.
1:11.5	I'm Anouche Samarote and I'm here to help you focus on the things that really matter
1:16.2	to you in this crazy accelerating world. And I am also so glad that I met my husband
1:23.0	before words like ghosting, simmering, and icing were part of the dating vernacular.
1:30.2	If you don't know what those words mean, it's okay. Sit tight. We're going to explain.
1:34.2	Because even if you aren't dating right now, they also apply to how we interact with
	...

Please login to see the full transcript.

Previous episode | Next episode

Disclaimer: The podcast and artwork embedded on this page are from WNYC Studios, and are the property of its owner and not affiliated with or endorsed by Tapesearch.

Generated transcripts are the property of WNYC Studios and are distributed freely under the Fair Use doctrine. Transcripts generated by Tapesearch are not guaranteed to be accurate.