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Disordered: Anxiety Help

Getting Out Of An Anxious Head (Episode 117)

Disordered: Anxiety Help

Josh Fletcher and Drew Linsalata

Health & Fitness, Mental Health

4.9665 Ratings

🗓️ 11 July 2025

⏱️ 38 minutes

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Summary

Ever feel trapped in cycles of rumination, overthinking, and constant mental chatter about your anxiety? In this episode, Drew and Josh tackle the challenging question of how to "get out of your own head" without turning it into another exhausting battle.

Starting with a thoughtful question from a listener who has built an impressive life despite ongoing anxiety and DPDR but still struggles with constant internal focus, the hosts explore why simply trying to stop thinking doesn't work and what actually does.

Key topics covered include:

  • Why "getting out of your head" doesn't mean eliminating anxious thoughts
  • The difference between coexisting with thoughts versus fighting them
  • How to make anxiety the "least interesting thing in the room"
  • Understanding when overthinking becomes a compulsion rather than helpful problem-solving
  • Practical strategies for redirecting attention while allowing difficult feelings
  • The role of willful tolerance in breaking rumination cycles


The episode features inspiring "did it anyway" stories from listeners conquering agoraphobia with solo travel and managing postpartum OCD intrusive thoughts during daily caregiving tasks.

Drew and Josh also address the tricky balance between attention redirection techniques and emotional avoidance, offering guidance for those working with metacognitive therapy approaches.

Key Timestamps:

[02:30] - Listener question about staying out of your own head

[07:30] - Josh's detailed narrative of what being "in your head" actually sounds like

[12:50] - Making anxiety the least interesting thing in the room

[15:50] - The attention "flashlight" metaphor and experimentation approach

[17:00] - Josh's YouTube banner analogy for intrusive thoughts

[18:40] - Addressing GAD and the belief that thinking is always helpful

[25:00] - Powerful "did it anyway" story about postpartum OCD

[29:00] - The role of distraction and attention flexibility

[33:40] - Listener question about balancing allowing feelings vs. attention redirection

This episode emphasizes that recovery isn't about achieving a thought-free mind, but rather developing a healthier relationship with your internal experience while engaging meaningfully with your life.---

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Transcript

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0:00.0

I've suffered with anxiety and OCD and DPDR for a long time now.

0:09.9

I've continued to live my life as I think I would have if I were non-anxious me.

0:14.7

I got married, I've changed careers a few times.

0:17.4

I've had two kids renovated a house and traveled, all that sort of thing. Despite this,

0:24.0

though, I'm still kind of stuck with disordered anxiety and that constant sort of feeling of

0:30.2

dissociation. I think the reason is because I find it very difficult to stay out of my own head.

0:36.0

How do you go about doing the things that you need to

0:38.8

do while staying out of your head and not overthinking things, not ruminating, in a way that

0:46.6

it doesn't feel like a constant battle? Welcome to Disordered. This is episode 117 of the podcast entitled How to Get Out of Your Own Head.

0:59.3

I am Drew Linzalata. I am a therapist practicing in the area of anxiety and anxiety disorders in New York, a former sufferer of panic disorder, agoraphobia, OCD, depression for many years of my life on and off, but much better now,

1:11.1

a three-time author on this topic, guy with an expensive microphone, social media dude, advocate,

1:15.6

all of that stuff.

1:16.9

And, uh, yeah, here to, uh, co-host another episode of Disordered with...

1:21.1

I'm Joshua Fletcher, also known as Anxiety Josh, a psychotherapist, an author, and content creator based in Manchester in the

1:30.0

UK, and a proud co-host of this wonderful podcast. So how do we get out, how do we get

1:38.3

out of our own head? By the way, the question sender in or was Shane, who said we could use

1:42.3

his name. Thank you so much, Shane. And good job like doing all the things. He's doing, he's living his life, which is really

1:47.5

awesome. Yeah. I mean, that's what you build upon. Look at what you've managed to achieve.

1:53.3

You know, yeah, how'd you get out of your own head? I mean, no one can do it on demand. I guarantee

2:00.2

you that. Not a single person person because that's not how brains and thoughts and attention works.

2:07.0

But I get what you're saying.

2:08.4

You're saying, you know, I think there's something I'm doing inwards that keeps making me care.

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