This is Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby and you're listening to the Love, Happiness and Success

Podcast.

Anyone going through a hard breakup or divorce has gone through this horrible purgatory

stage of ending a relationship where you're not together, but it is definitely not over emotionally.

And this is such a confusing place. You might be questioning yourself, did you make the right

choice, thinking about maybe getting back together with an ex and trying to figure out if

that's possible. Or maybe just trying to figure out if you can be friends with your ex and what that might look like.

You know, these boundaries can get very weird and it's just an incredibly confusing time.

And this is often true, you know, anytime a relationship ends, but in my experience, this ambivalence and

desire for connection can be more powerful at certain times of year. Like, for example,

around the holidays, many people, you know, have memories about their relationship, miss

their exes a little more than usual.

It can be a triggering time. But I think even just wintertime in general, you know, there's

less going on, you're by yourself and your house more. It can really lead you to miss your

ex and think about the relationship. And it's really a vulnerable time. You might be

idealizing good parts of the relationship and more prone to thinking about trying to reconnect

with your ex and whether or not that's a good idea. It can be so hard to figure out what your

truth is when you're dealing with these emotions. It can be hard to figure out what your truth is when you're dealing with these emotions.

It can be hard to figure out your truth, that much harder even to figure out your boundaries, right?

Can you be friends with your ex?

Is reconnecting with your ex possible?

If it is, is that a good idea for you?

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