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You both know it.

There is a problem in the marriage and confronting that can be one of the hardest things

you're ever going to do, but it's better to go ahead and just put it on the table and deal with it now

than to wait and wait and wait and then it's too late. I'm John Fuller along with

Greg and Aaron Smalley. they run our marriage department here at

Focus on the Family and Greg and Aaron you've seen in your counseling where

there is a problem. Maybe it's not even huge but it's not dealt with and over time it festers it grows and then it's a huge big problem

Anything come to mind Aaron as an example I just think of how many times I've been sitting in my counseling office working with a couple and they're describing what would look like them sitting on either end of this this rug and there's this this proverbial mound that's

building underneath the rug and it's like this mountain that forms in between

them. So there's this barrier between the two. Yes and they can't figure out why can't we reach each other?

Why are we so disconnected?

It's because this little thing that started has begun growing and growing and growing and

there's been additions to it and it's been fed,

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