Get REAL Pleasure & Stop Faking It with Vanessa Marin

We Can Do Hard Things

Glennon Doyle & Audacy

Society & Culture, Relationships, Education, Self-improvement

4.8 • 41.1K Ratings

🗓️ 4 July 2023

⏱️ 49 minutes

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Summary

Sex Therapist Vanessa Marin is back on the pod to discuss how we can all make sex more ENJOYABLE. She shares with us: How we can stop faking our orgasms and experiment with real pleasure; How to communicate honestly with our partners about what we want in bed; and Why masturbation can be an opportunity for self-exploration and reclamation. She also offers empowering advice for individuals recovering from sexual trauma. Plus, Glennon contemplates writing erotica. CW: Discussion of sex after sexual trauma For our previous conversations with Vanessa, check out: Episode 195 Sex Talk & That Night in Miami: Sex Therapy with Vanessa Marin, Episode 196 How Glennon & Abby Learned to Talk Dirty with Vanessa Marin, and Episode 213 Sex Fantasies: What Do They Say About Us? with Vanessa Marin. About Vanessa: Vanessa Marin is a sex therapist and instant New York Times Best Selling author of Sex Talks: The Five Conversations That Will Transform Your Love Life, co-written with her husband and partner-in-crime, Xander Marin. Vanessa is here to help you kick shame out of the bedroom so you can start feeling the connection, pleasure, and joy you deserve! TW: @VMTherapy IG: @vanessaandxander To learn more about listener data and our privacy practices visit: https://www.audacyinc.com/privacy-policy Learn more about your ad choices. Visit https://podcastchoices.com/adchoices

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0:00.0	And to be loved we need to be normal.
0:07.0	Hello, lovebugs. Welcome to We Can Do Hard Things.
0:12.0	Today we have a sweet sexy episode for you with our fave Vanessa Marin who makes sex feel doable.
0:24.0	She's gotten you talking. This is the fourth episode that we've done here.
0:29.0	Oh, I just like the way I like Vanessa's approach very much.
0:34.0	Vanessa Marin is a sex therapist and New York Times bestselling author of sex talks, the five conversations that will transform your love life, co-written with her husband, Sandra Marin.
0:46.0	Vanessa is here to help you kick shame out of the bedroom so you can start feeling the connection, pleasure, enjoy, you deserve.
0:53.0	Thank you for coming back again.
0:55.0	We just wanted to ask you a bunch of questions.
0:58.0	Yeah, I'm ready.
0:59.0	And I want to ask you also to tell us what people ask you the most often.
1:05.0	First I want to ask you this.
1:07.0	We've done three episodes together already.
1:09.0	And one of the most frequently asked questions to me after people listen to those episodes are, if I've been faking orgasm with my partner, I've heard this like 20 times.
1:22.0	Okay, if I have been faking orgasms with my partner, how do I come clean?
1:29.0	I want to stop it now. I want to get real.
1:32.0	I want to start over. I want to explore how to have an actual orgasm.
1:35.0	But I'm in so much shame and fear because I've been faking it this whole time.
1:39.0	Where do I start? So we'll just start with an easy one like that.
1:43.0	Yes. Okay, if you have two options here, I'm going to give you two choices.
1:47.0	But first, what I want you to start with is forgiving yourself.
1:51.0	So nobody sets out faking orgasms to be a jerk to their partner.
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