How do I respond when things are not good in fights?

Right? Do I belittle the other person? Do I put them down and do I try to bury them?

That's like contempt. Do I create constant conflict? Do I stonewall? Right? Like those things are very

important for us to understand.

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where we are in terms of our status on relationships?

So this, I think this holds whether you are in relationship right now or not.

We do a lot of that in the United Program for us, for ourselves.

So we have the quality of life assessment and the wheel of life assessment.

We have all these tests, right? What's going on with your biology, exercise relationships, your spirituality? We have a ton of assessments built in. And I do that on purpose. I'll explain maybe the purpose broadly for me and then we'll go into relationships. I do it because if we don't have data, we're just going based on beliefs of what we were told before.

So we can talk all about how every one of us is different, but it's not until you fill out an assessment and you go, oh crap, I never realized this thing was true about me.

But now that I see it, it makes complete sense.

The way I talked about myself before was the way

other people always talk about me. Because that's where we get our input, right? If you're anything

like me or God knows every single person I've worked with ever, we have a story in our head

that's constantly running. It's not that great when we get started. It's not exactly the happiest.

And then we have the narrative of the story that everybody else has been telling us for most of us for decades. So like for me, I'll just

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