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Hey, everybody, welcome to another episode of Virtual Couch Presents.

I am your host, Tony Overbay.

I'm a licensed, marriage and family therapist certified, mindful habit coach, writer, speaker, husband, father, four, and host of several podcasts about mental health, relationships, emotional maturity, navigating faith crisis,

you name it, all those wonderful things. But today, we're going to dive into a topic that I

will guarantee, I'm not a big all or nothing guy, but I believe everyone has experienced this,

whether you realize it or not. So here's a quick question to start us off. Have you ever been in a

conversation where somebody asked you a question that the words were words that sounded like a question, and if you were writing this out,

there would be a question mark at the end. Technically, it sounded like they were being curious,

but something just felt off. Like maybe your partner said, so you really thought that outfit was a good choice for dinner

with my parents? Or your boss asked, I'm very curious about why you would actually approach a client

presentation like that and assume that they would like it, that they would appreciate it,

or that you would get that deal. Or maybe it was something subtle like a friend saying,

so that's your opinion.

That is fascinating. That is interesting. Really. So that's honestly how you feel. Or one of my

personal favorites. This one is guaranteed to not land well. So you already cleaned up. So is this

like what you call clean? So that kind of thing. That's what I want to talk about today. The difference between genuine curiosity and then performative or even defensive questioning.

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