If you're married, if you feel love by your spouse life is beautiful. But if you've lost it, then where are you going to start to rediscover it? It's not in telling them, you need to be doing this and you need to be doing that.

No it's in asking those three questions

can revolutionize your life. Welcome to Family Life Today, where we want to help you pursue the relationships that matter most.

I'm Shelby Abbott and your hosts are Dave and Ann Wilson. You can find us at

FamilyLife Today.com. This is Family Life Today. So you go back to day one of our marriage 44 years ago. I was convinced that I am going to build the greatest marriage and greatest family ever.

I thought that too. I wanted to.

And then we got married and I realized I have no idea.

I had no idea. I had never seen it. I didn't know how to do it but we had a heart that wanted it

yeah but I got so scared because I'm like I don't know what to do I grew home you grew up I thought your home was

fantastic. My parents were great they were married over 70 years but it wasn't a Christ

centered home and I wanted that and I didn't know what it looked like. We wanted a

healthy home and we've got the guy with us today.

Yeah.

Because every person listening wants that.

Whether we came from it or not, we want to build that.

So Dr. Gary Chapman, a beloved friend of family life today is back to talk about your

books called Five Traits of a Healthy Family. Gary, welcome back.

Well, thank you.

It's great to be with you again.

That story you just heard from us.

I mean, and people if they don't know who you are,

they're not alive, because Mr. Five language of language,

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