it's the birth show all right so abby female friendship conflict you kind of had an aha moment yeah

i feel like this is something everybody in my age kind of goes through where you're moving through

so many different relationships in your life whether it's romantic or friendships or just like

at work relationships in general and you have to figure out how to have conflict that's productive and

for me that's something I've been learning over the last couple of years of my life and I make it a point

not to talk about my interpersonal drama because on here if it gets out into the world it's just too

much but one question I've never answered from my DMs is a lot of people

seem to come to me for questions about female friendship, which they shouldn't. And there's just

one question I've never answered is, and it's how to handle conflict well, or how to come to

resolutions and female friendships. And the reason I've never answered that is because I think

it's something that I have been trying to figure out for the last couple of years. And recently, I started noticing this pattern in my life in pretty much all of my relationships, not just female friendships, but also romantic relationships. And just kind of just my relationships in general, I've noticed, I'm like,

anytime someone gets close to me, they just kind of ghost me out of nowhere. I wonder what

that's about. So I decided to go to therapy for that and talk about some of my previous romantic

relationships, my previous female friendships, and kind of get an objective standpoint on things that have

happened and where things have gone wrong in moments of conflict. And this week I had something

happened in a completely different sector of my life, not a female friendship, not a romantic

situation. But there was a moment of conflict. And I was like,

why is this happening where I feel like I am bringing logical things to this conflict and it's not being handled well? And I kind of had this moment where I'm like, maybe women specifically,

maybe women in times of conflict don't need to be approached more with a feelings-based

argument, if you will. And I think the way I have approached conflict in my past is that someone

will come to me and be like, hey, XYZ happened, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah. And the way my brain

works is I think, oh oh if this person thinks that this

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