Hey guys, my name is John Kim. I'm a licensed therapist and life coach putting self-betterman into a shot glass because let's face it who's got that much time these days.

I come unpolished, unrehearsed, on purpose. If you're looking for more of a

wine glass, you've come to the wrong place.

Men, on one Sunday when you're making her famous pancakes and she starts a conversation using first names,

brace herself. She will start by saying she's not happy because she's too afraid to say the chemistry has

changed that you went from her mouth to her nipple. You will ask what you did

wrong and how you can fix it and she will look you dead in the eyes and say it's not what you did it's who you are and this will crush you

chop you at the knees you will drop your spatula so watch your toes.

Then she will explain to you how you not having your own life has caused her to trust you less.

You will look extremely confused and say, but you are my life. Then she will drive it home because

she has been prepping herself for this conversation for months now and knows it's now or never.

I am not your life. I can't take care of you anymore. You had a life when we met. I don't know what happened. I can't do do this anymore. She will leave the room and you will sit there stunned.

But you need to hear this. It will be the beginning of the end and like a broken bone you will grow back stronger one day realize that women want to be trusted

adored loved appreciated held heard understood and pampered but they also want to be challenged to

checked called out, sharpened and lead. They want you to do life with them, not

for them. So this kind of happened to me and that's why I wrote

about it and talk about going from someone's mouth to her nipple.

I think that especially in young love,

and this can go both ways, right?

It's not just men. It's when we start to put our

partner on a pedestal and we start to lose our own life slash sense of self right and when

that happens the dynamic of the relationship gets lobsided and instead of like an equal partnership she starts taking

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