What's up everybody? This is the Betray, the addicted, and the expert. My name is Brannon and I am the expert.

And I'm Ashland and I was the portrayed.

And I'm Kobe, the recovering addict.

What you're gonna get is three unique perspectives on recovery

and tools for hope and healing.

All right, Ashland here and I am talking about

surrounding yourself with people who are two steps ahead

rather than those toxic relationships

that keep you feeling stuck or that keep you feeling like your life is never

going to get better or that oh you're you're just like me and our life suck that's not

healthy that's called a toxic relationship and let me tell you for most of my

marriage I felt very isolated because I chose to

fail that way I chose to not seek help to not tell a family member or a friend that I

was struggling and so when I finally found a group

who was willing to be vulnerable and willing to share not publicly but just in a forum

it was all online I felt like okay I can connect with these

women I don't know most of them but I knew we were going through the same thing

so well for me was something very new turned

into a really great and supportive relationship with a group of women. Okay? I used this group.

I started going to a 12-step group, and then I started going to Atto Recovery, which is where

we sought specialized therapy. So I had kind of a mix of things going on, and during this this time things started to change. I was working on

my stuff and I started to see that some of the relationships or groups that I was a part of were no longer positive or safe places, but they were actually toxic.

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