Fool me three times, uh, shame on you again

The Overwhelmed Brain

Paul Colaianni: Emotional Abuse and Relationship Expert

Mental Health, Education, Health & Fitness, Self-improvement

4.5 • 2K Ratings

🗓️ 23 June 2024

⏱️ 37 minutes

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Summary

How many chances should you give someone before you realize that chances are only delaying the inevitable? Whether it's a friend, family member or partner, some people won't change. And when they won't, we may have to in order to find more peace and happiness in our lives.

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0:00.0	When someone shows you what they're holding in their hand, believe them.
0:17.5	When someone shows you what they're holding in their hand, believe them.
0:24.2	This is way out of context.
0:26.3	I know.
0:29.6	What I want to convey in this episode is that when someone shows up in a certain way where they do very
0:38.3	specific behaviors or do things that you don't like.
0:45.0	That is their hand.
0:47.0	They are showing you who they are today.
0:51.0	Doesn't mean they were always that way, doesn't mean they'll be that way
0:55.0	tomorrow, but all you have is today to be able to assess who someone is, how they're
1:01.7	showing up.
1:03.0	I think we get, sometimes we can get caught in a cycle of hoping someone will change.
1:11.0	And we get this thought in our mind that maybe tomorrow they'll be different.
1:18.6	Maybe they won't do this bad behavior or this behavior that I disagree with or maybe they won't call me that name again or
1:27.8	put me in that position again where I was very uncomfortable or even angry about what they were doing, what they were saying,
1:36.0	how they were behaving.
1:38.0	Maybe that won't happen again.
1:39.5	We hold on to the hope that that person won't do or say those things again.
1:47.4	And what we end up doing is compromise our own values. We compromise our own values.
1:54.0	We compromise our own boundaries.
1:58.0	And the longer this cycle continues where we keep holding onto hope, wishing and praying that things will be different tomorrow.
2:09.3	They will show up as a different person tomorrow. The longer we do that, the longer the cycle goes on, the longer
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