Do you hear me?

Now, these are ways that it can play out.

You could be going over an argument, a breakup,

you could go over the same scenario to see what went wrong. You're replaying past events and

you're replaying encounters with someone in your mind again and again and again to try and

find clues like, where did I fuck up, what did I do wrong, when did their face expression change,

what changed here, why don't they like me anymore? What have I done?

You're also stressing about something happening in the future and then revisiting these thoughts again and again and again. Well, this person goes to me now. Now, the next person's going to ghost me. Now, how do I know?

Now, this person said a date, but they haven't told me the time yet. It's been three hours

and they're and you just start to panic about something happening in the future because you've

experienced it or something like it in the past and this fear starts to like brew bigger and bigger.

Now, why do you do it? Why do you do it? Firstly, it is normal to want to know what went wrong.

That's completely understandable.

We have a desire and a curiosity to know what went wrong.

And for the most part, so we don't do it again if we're the ones that fucked up.

And if we really liked someone, of course it's normal to be like, well, why did it end?

That's okay.

That's perfectly normal. It's not saying

someone goes to you, just, you know, it's nothing. I'll just walk away. It's fine. It's going to affect

you. But a lot of us think that we're being self-aware when we reflect back on the past. But the

problem is that many of us miss the self-awareness part

and we end up just ruminating because a lot of the time we struggle to see where we went wrong

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