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Welcome to Before Breakfast, a production of iHeartRadio.

Good morning. This is Laura. Welcome to the Before Breakfast podcast.

Today's tip is that when you are making goals, focus on the process and not on the outcome.

The process is usually far more in your control. So focusing on that can make goals in general feel more doable.

So I have talked with a lot of people about their goals over the years.

And I find that many of them are about a desired outcome.

Like, lose 15 pounds and fit in your old jeans or get an amazing new job.

Meet someone special. See your net worth across a million dollars.

Now, there is absolutely nothing wrong with wanting any of these things.

The trouble is that some aspects of these goals are not going to be entirely within your control.

The market might tank just as your brokerage account gets close to seven figures.

Unless you plan to work for yourself, you need the organization where you want to work to agree to hire you.

And your dream company might be in the middle of a hiring freeze.

Many of us have had the experience of working hard to lose weight and then needing to take medication for something that then puts back on the pounds that you work to lose.

All of this can be frustrating. If we are not careful, these setbacks can make us question our agency over our lives.

But when we focus on process, not outcome, all of this changes.

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