Hello, hello, everybody. Welcome back to another episode of Flulently Fix, where we fix

your life and everything that's in it. We are doing three questions for this episode, and I might

do another one on Friday or next week because there were a lot of write-ins, but these three

have elements that I think everyone could kind of relate to in some sense. So that's why I picked

them. The very first one that I want to answer is from someone who wrote this. They said, I'm looking for advice on engagement pressure. I've been with my boyfriend for three years. We've lived together for two. It feels like every family function we're getting asked when we're finally going to get married. My friends bring it up all the time, asking if he's gone ring shopping or if we've talked

about it. And to be completely honest, neither of us are really sure we even want to get married in

general. I've never been the person that dreams of a wedding. But the pressure is starting to make me

think we're doing something wrong, that he can just get up and leave whenever, which is what my

friends say. Any advice on how to not let the marriage hamster wheel get a girl down?

Wow. I feel like a lot of people could relate to this. Whether you're in any relationship,

even if you're not in a relationship, like from your friends and from your family. And I know,

because I've been on both ends of this, you know, both sides. You get asked, who are you dating? Why aren't

you dating? Are you going to get on the dating apps? Oh, you're dating someone. How's it going? Are you exclusive? Are you going to move in? Are you getting engaged? When's the wedding? Are you having kids? Like, it never seems to end. And I'm with you. Like, the pressure sucks. And I feel like one of the reasons why it sucks is that there's already societal pressure, you know, that it's already in every single Disney movie and book that you read. And like, I know what the script is. And it's so hard to tune all of that out and just find what you truly honestly in your heart want. So first of all, I just like, I feel the frustration. But what are we going to have you do about it?

Here is some of my advice. I think what I would do is I would say something in the moment. I would have an

answer ready to say and I would say it rather than taking this route, which you're probably

taking, of being nice about it, indulging in the question, then going home, questioning

everything and feeling like shit. So let's say something to these people in the moment and just

kind of microdose like standing up for yourself with honesty or any of these tools.

Because I think there's a variety of how you can respond to these people. The very first thing I

would suggest is holding up a mirror to the same

exact energy that they're bringing. They're bringing a kind of inquisitive, magnifying glass

energy, mirror it and send it right back. So if a friend says to you, oh my God, like, are you guys

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