is holding on to the past and nobody says at the end of their life what I really am happy I

did all my life is hold on to my regrets. Welcome to the Psychology podcast. Today we welcome Dr.

Robert L. Leehee to the show. Dr. Leehee is the director of the American Institute for Cognitive

Therapy NYC and Clinical Professor of Psychology and Psychiatry at Wild Cornell University Medical

School. Dr. Leehee serves on a number of scientific committees for international conferences on

cognitive behavioral therapy and is a frequent keynote speaker throughout the world. He has authored

27 books about CBT, depression, worry, anxiety and emotion regulation which have been translated in

20 languages. His latest book is called If Only, Finding Freedom from Regret. In this episode I

talked to Dr. Leehee about finding freedom from regret. Regret is an unpleasant emotion that can

motivate us to learn and grow but there are times when it can keep us frozen in place. According

to Dr. Leehee this is why it's important to make a distinction between productive and unproductive

rumination. He shares the cognitive biases we have about loss and opportunity as well as strategies

on how to let go of regret when it no longer serves us. I really enjoyed chatting with Robert.

He and I go way back actually and he's been on the podcast before and his work has really influenced

me even before I met him and really deeply helped me overcome a lot of anxiety I was experiencing

many years ago. So I find his work really impactful and I found this discussion which is an extension

of his prior work to the realm of regret really quite profound and it had a really deep

existential psychology flavor which you all know I like. So I think you'll really enjoy this podcast

as well and I hope you find it useful for your own life and finding a life without living it with

regret. So without further ado I bring you Dr. Robert Leehee. Hey Robert thanks so much for being

on the psychology podcast. Well Scott thanks for having me on again it's great to see you.

Great to see you too wow that's a change in the world. But you have this new book

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