Finally! A One-Size-Fits-All Approach to Our Kids' Behavior

Respectful Parenting: Janet Lansbury Unruffled

JLML Press

Kids & Family, Parenting

4.7 • 3.8K Ratings

🗓️ 16 December 2025

⏱️ 28 minutes

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Summary

Every child is certainly unique, but when it comes to their behavior, we can sometimes complicate a situation that might really be quite simple to address. This week Janet shares an email from a parent who says her nearly 4-year-old has lately been argumentative and having meltdowns over the smallest things. "She seems to want to self-sabotage and create problems where there are none." This parent has tried to be consistent in her responses but to no avail. "Is it a cry for attention?" she wonders. "Either way we're not making any progress or seeing the light at the end of the tunnel." A second note comes from the mother of a 4.5-year old looking for book recommendations "for guidance on how to help her follow our instructions more readily." Janet recommends a single solution for both these parents. Janet's "No Bad Kids Master Course" is available at ⁠⁠⁠⁠NoBadKidsCourse.com⁠⁠⁠⁠ and ⁠⁠⁠⁠JanetLansbury.com⁠⁠⁠⁠. Please support our sponsors! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

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0:22.7	Hi, this is Janet Lansfrey. Welcome to Unruffled. So today I have a couple of notes that I'm
0:29.5	planning to respond to. One of them is quite detailed. And the other one is so short, you're
0:35.5	probably going to wonder how I could possibly infer anything from it.
0:39.9	But what both of these bring up for me is this idea that there really is a one-size-fits-all approach to dealing with our kids' behavior.
0:52.3	And that is, well, you've heard me say this before, but to meet them where they are.
0:58.4	So we don't need to find a special resource for my child at a certain age, because they've gone
1:05.9	past the toddler years.
1:07.9	We don't need to get different tools to help us with a child who seems more
1:13.1	sensitive than another child and how we even decide that, I'm not sure, because everything
1:19.2	is a range. And even if our child is neurodivergent, we can meet them where they are. There's
1:25.3	a whole range of sensitivities. Yes, sometimes children
1:29.2	that are neurodivergent are much more easily overwhelmed. Sometimes they need us to help them
1:34.9	in ways that Arna's hands-on that give them more space. But what we want to do is tune in to our
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