Fighting Can Make Your Relationship Better—If You Do It THIS Way with Drs Julie & John Gottman

The Liz Moody Podcast

Liz Moody

Health & Fitness, Self-improvement, Education, Mental Health

4.8 • 2.9K Ratings

🗓️ 31 January 2024

⏱️ 87 minutes

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Summary

Dr. Julie Schwartz Gottman and Dr. John Gottman discuss their research surrounding couple’s therapy, relationships, and how to fight positively with your partner. How having quality relationships can extend your life by 17 years The 3 fighting styles & how to know which one you fall into The 5:1 ratio you need to follow to have a successful fight with your partner How to know if your relationship is healthy or unhealthy (& whether or not unhealthy relationships can change!) The number one thing to never say in a fight What the Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse are & why they ruin relationships Why you only have 3 minutes to create a successful fight The Gottmans’ surprising thoughts on Love Languages An exercise to build more trust and happiness into your relationship What to do when a fight isn’t resolvable (and how to know when to break up) And so much more For more from The Gottmans, you can visit The Gottman Institute on Instagram at @gottmaninstitute or online at www.gottman.com. You can purchase their newest book, Fight Right: How Successful Couples Turn Conflict Into Connection online or wherever you buy books. To join The Liz Moody Podcast Club Facebook group, go to https://www.facebook.com/groups/thelizmoodypodcast. Ready to uplevel every part of your life? Order my new book 100 Ways to Change Your Life: The Science of Leveling Up Health, Happiness, Relationships & Success now! This episode is sponsored by: Pet Honesty: go to PetHonesty.com/LIZ to get 25% off your first purchase. LMNT: go to DrinkLMNT.com/LizMoody a to get a free LMNT sample pack with any order. Seed: go to seed.com/lizmoody and use code LIZMOODY for 25% off your first month. Osea: get 10% off your first order at oseamalibu.com with code LIZMOODY10. Previous episodes referred to in this episode: Ask The Doctor: Epigenetics Edition—How To Hack Your Genes To Increase Lifespan, Reverse Cellular Damage, & Fight Disease with Dr. Lucia Aronica How To Be More Persuasive, Get What You Want, & Leave A Better Impact On Friends, Family, & Strangers with Vanessa Bohns, Phd What It’s Really Like To Be Childfree By Choice with Ruby Warrington & Vanessa And Xander Marin The Liz Moody Podcast cover art by Zack. The Liz Moody Podcast music by Alex Ruimy. Formerly the Healthier Together Podcast.

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0:00.0	Hello friends and welcome back to the Liz Moody podcast. I'm your host
0:05.2	Liz Moody and I'm a best-selling author and longtime journalist. This podcast is
0:09.1	about helping you live your healthiest, happiest life, whether we're learning
0:12.2	how to hack our epigenetics to
0:13.9	increase our lifespans, discovering how to be more persuasive and get what we want,
0:18.6	or talking about what it's really like to be child free by choice.
0:23.2	And yes, those are all real episodes
0:24.9	and they are linked in the show notes
0:26.6	if you want to listen.
0:28.8	I am so excited today to welcome Dr. Julie Schwartz-Gotman and Dr. John Gotman to the
0:34.9	podcast. They are iconic. You have likely heard their research or things they've
0:41.2	coined simply because their ideas have so permeated the
0:44.2	cultural consciousness. They are the co-founders of the Gotman Institute and
0:48.2	inventors of the Gotman Method for Couples Therapy, which is a science and
0:51.8	research-backed method used by therapists
0:53.8	around the world to list just a few of their many many achievements.
0:59.5	Dr Julie Schwartz-Gotman has been named the Washington State Psychologist of the Year, and she's
1:04.4	authored or co-authored seven books. Dr. John Gottman was named one of the top ten most
1:10.2	influential therapists of the past quarter century by the psychotherapy
1:13.9	networker. He's done over 50 years of research. He is the author or co-author of
1:19.4	over 200 published academic articles and more than 40 books.
1:26.3	Together Julie and John co-authored their newest book Fight Right,
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