So you want to be a woman who doesn't have to yell to command attention or be dominant and

aggressive in order to be a great and effective leader. And more than anything, you want to be a

wise woman who builds your home and is never the one to tear down with your own hands. Well,

you're in the right place at the right time.

This unique blend of femininity, which I define as tender power, reminds me of a recent time

with my daughter. One day, Maya, our nine-year-old, and I were running around New York City

running errands. By the third stop, I could tell she was done.

She'd reached that point that even one more stop just felt impossible.

She was tired, her patience was worn out, and her whole face showed it.

Now as moms, you know we had the 10 DC to say, fix your face. Straighten up. But I decided to try

something different. As we got out of the car, I grabbed Maya's hand and I held it and I said this.

Maya, thank you for being with me. I know you're so tired and I really appreciate you for hanging in there. I know

it's hard and we're almost done, but I want you to know that every moment with you is so special

and I truly appreciate your sacrifice. I love you so much. And just like that, my deflated little

girl lit up. Suddenly, she was energized again. Not only did we get

through that last store, but she even started styling me, pulling clothes for me to try on,

and got me into almost 10 different outfits. It was such a powerful reminder that the Bible

is right. A soft answer turns away wrath.

Lord, let us be women whose words will forever bring life and not a knife.

You see, being soft isn't about being weak and it's not a sign of being passive. It's actually a sign of strength. And I would even

go as far as say emotional intelligence. Being able to be the type of woman who is able to stay

relaxed and calm, even when things around you are just chaotic. It reminds me of a scripture

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